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Ladies i am having a really hard time accepting this new life and new me. I was fine up until December then suddenly one day i had a panic attack ,racing heart and anxiety. I didn't know what it was and called the ambulance . I never in my life had it. Then followed all the crazy symptoms of peri. I am only 44. I am working with a naturopathic dr which is costing me a arm and a leg but feel so much more comfortable with her than my dr who knows nothing about the peri and menopausal women . All she wants to do is push antidepresents which i refuse. I feel like this peri came in my life like a thief in the night and robbed me from my life and womanhood. For you ladies who have lived with this longer than me how do you cope ? How do you accept this ? How long has this plagued your life. I feel so down tonight.
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Sassyr12a hopeforever
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Hello hopeforever
I've been unwell on and off for years and even so full meno at 42 knocked the life out of me. I cope by breaking things down into manageable chunks. I try not to think of the enormity of the symptoms because that makes it worse, but instead I try to structure things to make me feel more comfortable. I get fresh air, meditate and exercise and really focus on things that are important. I don't worry now about what other people think and I try to put myself first sometimes because its the right thing to do. I'd say try not to fight and question it, it makes it harder to accept. Just try to work on what helps and look forward not back. I wish you lots of luck hun, and feel better soon xx
sabrina68781 hopeforever
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Anxiety, hypochondria, nipple pain, breast pain, joint pain and so on . l am 47 and l don't know if it is due to perimenopause or not.
hopeforever
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Thank all you beautiful ladies for replying. I feel so much better knowing that i am not alone. Just the thought that these syptoms can stick around for yrs scares me. I spoke to a lady today about bio identical hormones and she said it was the best thing ever. I visit my naturopathic dr tomorrow and this will be a topic. I personally know that i need to take something because i cannot live like this anymore.
sara97862 hopeforever
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Hi Hope, our stories sound similar.... I had my first panic attack at age 40, and at the time chalked it up to working too hard and having a young child. I drove myself to the ER, and Dr said no heart issues, nothing life threatening.
I didn't realize it at the time, but it was the start of peri for me.
I am 48 now, and had a couple of VERY rough years right around age 44, where I would only have a good day every once in a while.
I do have more good days than bad now, for which I am soooo thankful.
The one thing that helps me is to take as much time for myself as I need. (Big introvert here...). I can't just keep going without recharging my batteries anymore, and I can't worry about whether that offends anyone. I struggle with that, but it gets easier with practice.
Hugs to you!
Sara
becky21031 hopeforever
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Hello. Its so nice to read and see other women who understand. Im 42 and obgyn thinks Im going through perimeno. Had terrible anxiety pop outta no where at 40. Brain fog, off balance feelings, hot flashes and heavy periods. I dont even know myself since I hit 40. I feel so old. But we all go through this so its nice to read others stories. I dont care what anyone says women are the stronger ones!! Hang in there everyone. Im gonna pretend I didnt read some of you have gone through this over 10 years😯
hopeforever becky21031
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You are so right women are stronger then men. My ex thought he was dying with a just a cold. I too cannot believe some women have been in this mess for some 10 to 15 yrs. We just have to find what works best for us and pray for better days ahead.
synaesthAsia hopeforever
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Ho hopeforever.
I started with the horrible symptoms of peri menopause 4 years ago at 44. Like you I went to many different doctors for my different issues: GI for my upset stomach, orthopedic for my joints, eye doctor for my eyes etc etc. They all attempted to treat isolated symptoms but of course it didn t work. And like you I also went to a very expensive functional doctor. I paid a lot of money but at last I had a proper diagnosis and a holistic approach. She s helped me a lot and gave me tools and advice on supplements and lifestyle changes no other doctor was able to provide but hey, I feel that hormones are like cockroaches.... You can temporarily control them but at least mine seem to be extremely adaptive and resistant. All my symptoms have flared up recently and they re driving me crazy. I don t have access to my functional doctor anymore so I am trying different potions and supplements to find the next thing that will help at least temporarily. I ve accepted it as part and parcel of being a woman, because what else can I do? Not accepting won t make it better. I feel really down these days, very depressed and anxious, among all the other very physical symptoms and today I am seeing a therapist. Not sure if she can help but at least I can have someone to talk to and maybe learn some coping strategies. I completely understand you and wish you to start having good days soon. This too will pass. Hope for ever.
hopeforever synaesthAsia
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thank you and yes this will pass. So happy that we have each other on this forum. I would be lost and a mess without it. I know this is a part of womanhood but it is so hard to accept especially when it robs you from the quality of life. Some days are really bad and some days are ok. I guess it will take time to get use too. Take care
lina19 hopeforever
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all countries must really provide free health care and medicines in my opinion! when they can allow businesses to screw up the food we eat and the air that we breathe, then they might as well provide the fix...free! i don't think that the older generations suffered as much as we are. its just not fair that we have to work so hard all our life just to pay medical bills!! if doctors dint make that much money, i don't think that they would have prescribed all those medications!! its just so frustrating that there is no ethics in this profession. sorry...when i read about how most of us are suffering with these menopausal symptoms at this age, it just bothers me at times. has anyone met a doctor who just advices the patient to make lifestyle changes for a couple of months and then go back if problems still persists? the very first consultation, we are prescribed with some medicine or the other!
hopeforever lina19
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All these doctors do is hustle drugs. Thank God here in Canada we have free health care. I couldn't imagine my bill if my country didn't offer it. I lost count the many times i went to the hospital and feel for women who have to pay out of pocket. My mother and her sister never went through all these crazy symptoms and look at me as if i am crazy. I swear it is the food and environment. Its just a different world in which we now live. I am now eating organic and grass fed meat but that is getting quite expensive. I will be planting a garden this yr to cut down on cost. This has taught me that we women have to take care of ourselves and be our own advocate. trust our gut and do not take something because a dr tells us to take it.
kimberly96221 hopeforever
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Wow this is me!!! Mine also started in December. The hard skippped palpitations came on out of know where!! Then the anxiety set in BAD constantly thinking I was gonna have a heart attack!! I too called an ambulance thinking I was gonna die. It's been 5 months of pure hell for me. I don't know who this new person is but I hate the new me!!! My anxiety has taken my appetite. I barely function, just go through the motions most days. Did see a heart Dr. and all tests show my heart is fine. Finally went to my Dr for blood work. Had been to her a few times for my anxiety but when she called on my results all she could tell me is she knows why I feel the way I do. My estrogen and testosterone are non existant. She said this explains the heart palpitations, anxiety/ depression and drenching hot flashes!! I'm getting the pellets in 2 weeks. This forum though has been a blessing knowing I'm not the only one experiencing this nightmare!! Take care!!!!
hopeforever kimberly96221
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It's a complete nightmare to say the least. 5 months of hell and i too will be doing bioidentical hormones in 2 weeks. I will start with the cream then try the pellets later. I heard it does wonders for women and I will take anything at this point. I never thought in a million yrs that hormones can have so much control over a woman's overall well being. Praying that it works out for you. Take care
2chr2015 hopeforever
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please keep us updated on how the hormones work for you.
lori93950 2chr2015
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just be careful of the pellets i started bhrt last june july by august had a little belly noticeable as i was 110lbs by december a bigger belly but could still fit in my clothes and by march 174lbs !!! dont eat any crap no wheat sugar dairy mostly fruit veg. all water weight !
i started peri at 41 had anxiety panic attacks for 11 years now ... have learned to live a life where i can only drive within a few miles ... tried ad's but just make you hyper they are designed for depression and to get you 'moving ' when all we really need to be calmed down . just need a peaceful mind !
ampat1 hopeforever
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I wish you the best with BHRT. keep us posted how they're working out for you. I can relate with you about all the anxiety and palpitations. take care
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