Hello
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I am a newbie and just want to say hi.
I have suffered from depression on and off for many years and am looking for support, empathy and advice.
I am 60, female and live in the UK
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Posted , 10 users are following.
I am a newbie and just want to say hi.
I have suffered from depression on and off for many years and am looking for support, empathy and advice.
I am 60, female and live in the UK
1 like, 31 replies
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elizabeth20203 hypercat
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It's great to talk to fellow suffers as I have no one else who understands. My sisters don't and while friends do up to a point they soon get bored with it. Don't blame them!
This does seem like a good site and am glad I found it.
Are you on meds? if you don't mind me asking. Are they helping you?
kat50 hypercat
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marieC kat50
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elizabeth20203 hypercat
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be a waiting list so why not look into It soon. Anytime you need to talk I
am on here most days.Hope this helps.
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I did google 'Mind' and 'Sane' etc. but their nearest meeting places are too far away to travel as I don't live in a large town.
I appreciate your offer of talking to you and might take you up on it. Thank you so much. xx
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marieC kat50
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I've been back to the GP and asked if there was anything else I could try and he said "I think you've tried everything".
I have had therapy, though, which has helped me. Some of my problem was anxiety, expecially social anxiety and I paid for EMDR, which I really couldn't afford to do, but couldn't afford not to, if you can understand me, which helped me a lot, as I had an unhappy childhood, that affected me pretty badly and after 60 odd years, really wanted something to change.
I'm currently having CBT for my hoarding disorder, and it should help with other things too, at least I am hoping it will and someone else who hoarded told me that they were having it and it has helped them.
I'd had conventional counselling, where you just talk and that helped once, but I had it after that and it didn't help me, or at least, not after it had finished.
If you have a local MIND, it could be worth giving them a ring, as they may have suggestions or be able to point you to a counsellor (Wellbeing Service eg).
If you read other posts there may be other things suggested that may help too.
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Good luck this is a good place to get any advice and not feel alone depression is a very lonely illness but there is always someone on here to give you a bit of support if you need it
take care sue
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I worked for the DWP in their contact centre which was very pressurised and stressful. After time off and getting written warning etc. they did sack me at the age of 56. Due to depression and some lung damage I cannot get another job and have been out of work since. I am 60. Because of the change in the retirement age I am expected to sign on JSA (wouldn't get ESA as not 'sick' enough) and live on JSA and look for work. I am completely fed up of it and feel useless and unwanted now. I can't get a job and can't get my pension until 65. Sometimes life doesn't seem living any more.
Oh ignore me - just feeling sorry for myself and will shut up now. It does seem a poor reward though for working full time all my life and now just flung on the scrapheap to rot! xx
Bevanne hypercat
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I feel for you
I too have suffered with depression for most of my life and didn't know I had until about twenty years ago
Both myself and my husband worked in mental health but my depression suddenly came to a head with a panic attack
I thought I was dying it was awful and even now when I have a panic attack it's still as bad even know and I have all the education I need about mental health but it's still difficult even after all these years
I try to think if I'm having a bad day
Then it's a bad day and if I'm aware it is a bad day then I hope the next day will be better
But it's rough
My thoughts are with you
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My depression is mainly low grade on a day to day basis. When my stress levels are low and there are no major worries in my life it is usually under control.
It is generally sparked when I feel under attack usually in a job when I have to perform. Any criticism or the feeling of being put under too much pressure sparks off major stress which then becomes depression if allowed to continue. This was the case in my last job where I was made to feel inadequate and also bullied by a supervisor. The feelings of inadequacy and being trapped ended up in a suicide attempt eventually.
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I am new to this site. As soon as I read your post I immediately thought "thats me". I also spark when under attack in a job, being under too much pressure. I recently started a new job, plenty of young, bright computer geniuses. My bosses are target driven without exception. I became scared, jumpy and insecure, developed brain fog to cope. A shutdown I think. I resigned before I was sacked. It feels good to know Im not the ony one who crumbles under criticism.
Your post really helped me to see more clearly the triggers to look out for. Thankyou so much
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I then moved and got a job in a contact cente. It was awful. Stuck on the phones all day with a headset glued to my ear. The customer weren't the problem - it was management and the unreachable targets they imposed and the continual pressure. They had what they called a 'real time officer' and if you were in the wrong code on the phone for a few seconds longer than you should have been someone would ring down to my line manager to ask why? It wasn't a case of working harder there but smarter and I am not very good at that!
I was there over 5 years and hated every day. I got very stressed which turned into depression and suicidal feelings. I took time off sick and was sacked. I felt like a trapped animal running round and round it's wheel and getting nowhere fast.
This has had a lasting effect on me as I now feel I am a crap worker and have no self esteem or confidence in my skills. Unfortunately most jobs in my field are like that nowadays.
I hope you manage to find work without targets! Good luck love. xx
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