Help for my partner
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I looking for help and advice for myself regarding my partner . I'm totally at my whits end with him and have no idea what to do. When we first met he was lovely the "perfect" partner so I thought. as time went on 6ma year later I found out he was addicted to tramadol and had been since we met. at this point he was taking over 15 tablets a day. I had started to wonder why he couldn't get out of bed or do daily tasks. this was when he had ran out he was having withdrawl. this all came to an end and I helped him off them. not long after we went on holiday and moved into our first home together and decided to start a family. I found out I was pregnant and not long after he started acting up again. disappearing at night and not coming back, taking cocaine , amphetamine, consuming large amounts of alcohol. the lies started, and eventually I found out and confronted him. at one point he ended up in hospital overdosing. By that point I had a 6 week old baby!! Hes previously stolen my car, drove whilst under the influence, hes not abusive but does get angry and sometime rough. he has mental health problems and severe depression, anxiety and a panic disorder. Hes also with the crisis team for suicide, and a huge lier about everything and anything pointless or not. So everytime he does something like that I kinda of complain but brush it off as I dont want to push him over the edge. he says he doesnt want to do any of the things hes been doing but cant help it he said it's like urges. hes had councelling and been referred to a psychiatrist but his appointment isnt for another 2 month. I've had to call police tonight as hes taken my car for the 9th time without my permission and I'm sure he was under the influence. I dont think I can handle anymore but Im scared to ask him to leave incase he hurts himself. I'd be so selfish to push someone out who's crying for help but then again hes putting me through so much. is there any other services he can speak with to see if he has an actual underlying problem.
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patient_mod2 holly47268
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Hello Holly47268
We note from a recent post which you have made to our forum that you are concerned about someone who may be experiencing thoughts around self-harm. If we have misinterpreted your comments then we apologies for contacting you directly. But if this is the case then we would urge you to encourage them to seek urgent or emergency help, or do so on their behalf.
If they are having these suicidal thoughts then we strongly recommend they speak to someone who may be able to help. The Samaritans offer a safe space where they can talk openly about what they are going through. They can help them to explore their options, understand their problems better, or just be there to listen.
Their contact details are on our patient information leaflet here: https://patient.info/health/dealing-with-suicidal-thoughts, which also offers lots of other advice on how to access the help they may need. If you are concerned that this person is about to act on their thoughts of self harm, or has already done so, please call 999 on their behalf.
Kindest Regards,
Patient.
AlexandriaGizmo holly47268
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Whatever you decide to do has to be your decision and no one else can decide for you, but I would urge you to make a decision pretty quickly, it's no longer just you, you have to consider but now you have your baby to put first above everyone else.
DO NOT FEEL GUILTY if he cannot help himself then you cannot be expected to take the brunt of his behaviour.
Others may say I'm harsh but his unpredictability is what would scare me because although you say, he hasn't been violent but that he gets rough, I would be scared that he would become incapable of knowing when to stop and being rough with a baby could be that step to far.
You seek help for yourself, you and baby must be the priority.
Take care and God bless you both