Help me understand please be honest with your answers
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Most of you know my story my partner left me saying his depressed
He says his coming back and then on that day says he needs more time he's exact words was I love you 110 percent and I will come back yet he hasn't phoned or come to visit no text to me neither his daughter..
My daughter text him saying dad if your not coming back tell mum and tell her to move on, but he has not replied to her.
The questions are, is he keeping me hanging on a piece of string like a puppet? Or is this how depression works? Should I be patient or tell him to do one ? He says he's staying with a mate untill his friends wife come back.
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alex28917 sandy_so_sad
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Personally, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt for a while and ask him to explain when he gets back. If he takes too long though without giving you any information or indications he's going to come back, then I'd attempt to get in contact with him and if i couldn't assume he isn't going to. I have no idea how long is too long though, maybe a month? I suppose you could judge that for yourself.
I doubt this will be of much use. This could be to do with his deppression or simply being caught up with helping his friend, but really it's difficult to be sure at this point. I hope this all works out for you x
wayne1962 sandy_so_sad
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Hi again, Sandy. How long has this been going on now? Maybe it's time to inform him he cannot keep you hanging like this, that it is not fair on you or your daughter. Tell him you're moving on and that you would appreciate it if he would make arrangements re: visitations with his daughter. Start building your new future today. Be firm about it.
laurie82758 sandy_so_sad
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Speaking as a bloke, which is what I am, I suggest that you just give him an ultimatum. Be back by such time or boil your head.
Where is he staying? My instinct tells me that he has 'another life' and he's keeping you in reserve.
Maybe I shouldn't have said that, but if you take the plunge and tell him to either turn up or ship out, the sooner you will get on with you and your Daughter's life.
Hope it turns out well.
gill73026 sandy_so_sad
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