Help! Overwhelmed with symptoms

Hi Hun sorry to here you having such a tough time but it does have a name it's called menopause Hun unfortunately you sound as though you might be right in the bad bit of it all when it peaks really bad hopefully when you get home find a nice lady doctor to go have a chat with perhaps she can put you on something to help ease some of the symptoms while your pitching. I'm post menopausal by 3.5 years I still get symptoms of the menopause unfortunately but some of the symptoms you describe do improve. Big hugs to you I now how you feel but try and be kind to yourself and accept its part of what is woman have to go threw at some point xxx

Hi Ruthie,

SNAP!

When I was in my thirties I never gave the menapause a second thought , then all of a sudden your in your fifties and bang this huge big cloud hits you. Everything you mention sounds so like myself. I'm going to see my GP tomorrow after two years of struggling with this dreadful feeling. I don't talk about it to anyone, so I'm not sure how I'm going to cope tomorrow! I don't sleep and spend most evenings sitting on my own . I've put weight on and can't bare looking at my shape. My husband doesn't want to know about any of it. I packed a bag last week and told him I was going, he broke down and begged me to stay, nothing's really changed and I'm hoping I can get some help tomorrow.

Hi Ruthie,

                 me too, it's the menopause hun, rest and recuperate 

I feel just awful today and I find that any stress or anxiety makes me feel terrible, right now my head aches, my neck, my back and my shoulders, I had hardly any sleep last night.

I am trying to cope with a full time job too, it's horrendous,

I also suffer with horrendous indigestion

I just feel like going back to sleep today

                                  Mrs M 

Hi ruthie

I have had all this problems due to anxieties, stomach issues, Palpitations, depression. 

My sister introduced me to ginger tea its suppose to help with stomach issues and help you sleep, and help relieve stress.

All you need is ginger you peal the skin and then cut in really thin, then you boil 2 1/2 cups water and add 4 to 6 thin slices of ginger 

then you can add steviva sugar and a little bit of honey and thats how you make it Ginger is really good for stomach issues try it and see how it works with you 

Hope you feel better

Hi Ruthie.  Why are you hiding how you feel from your daughter and husband?  THey probably can tell you don't feel like yourself.  Tell them.  It's not a disease just a time in life we as woman go through.  I have been going through this for a while.  I went to the doctor and broke down crying for no reason. LOL ( So not like me) She just said Yup your in menopause full force.  I have the extreme hot flashes. (unbearably hot) along with nasuea. Just to get through the nasuea I have to sit down to get it to pass.  I can't sleep at night.  Dragging in the day.  But on the upside I finally have the emotions under control for the most part.  It will get better but it can last a while.  If it is unbearable you can take HRT. (Hormone replacement theraphy) although they say it can cause cancer and if you take it to only take it for a short time.  It will get better though.  Hope you get throught it all soon.

Hi Ruthie, I could of written your post. I too am suffering with all the body pain, fatigue, anxiety/panic attacks, nausea and stomach pain etc. i am at my wits end with it all and dont remember what its like to feel well. I'm assuming its all menopause or should i say hoping it is as i have trouble convincing myself i am ok with all these symptoms. i also am 50 . your not alone with this, hugs x

but of course this is what we've got  and it's just awful,

I can't get going, it's a wonderful day outside, the trees and the air is great, usually I would be out walkijng but

je suis fatiguez uhhh 

hang in there girls it can only get better

 xxxxxx

Hi Ruthie,

I can abslutely simplify with you. I have had similar syptoms & more. My anxiety moved to depression & with other life probs Im currently dealing with  it all got  mixed up & out of control. My first ever post to this site just last week & reading others stories really helped put things in perspective along with visiting a counsellor. Now I have taken time to be kinder to myself. Lightening the load, relaxing( blobbing out) if its stressful dont do it attitude. Not easy as Im broke money wise but getting back mental control( & having an understanding what is going on). I m coping with the 'pains/aches' & learning how to maintain my mental state(anxiety, depression, bad moods).I have been covinced its not forever. Its a horrible experience because I think alot of the time its never ending , something else keeps happening, its hard to explain to my family so they think Im just 'sick' all the time. It may not help but all the readers understand you & it helps to put it out there. Peri-Meno  is not something Id ever heard of. I wish more awareness was out there. Hang in there Ruthie we  are all strong thats why we are woman.

I can sympathise, I get all theses thngs too and I am only  perimenopause! Don't know which one is worse, have never been so tired!  You are not alone although it can feel like it sometimes. Take care!

Thank you all so much for your replies and support today - it has really helped me feel less alone with all these symptoms. My family know I am having a hormonal time but I don't like to go on about it. I just find it hard struggling to do all the family stuff I used to, I've always been so active.

Anyway, we must believe for better days ahead. Keep hoping! And thanks again xx

Ruthie, I have mentioned the following before but I don't think anyone takes any notice.  All those symptoms are also symptoms of haemochromatosis.  It does not mean that you are not going through menopause, but it may be exasperated by overload iron as well.  As you slow down menstruating and you have the HH genes, you start loading iron too.  This was my experience.  This is especially for those who have celtic and/or viking heritage.

You need to ask for an Iron Studies/Panel test.  Now I am not talking just iron.  If you are not given results for ferritin iron and transferrin saturation % plus serum iron and TIBC, you have not been given an Iron Studies test.  If 2 of those are over the normal range, then you should ask for a genetic test.  Always ask for a copy of your results so that you can see for yourself.  Drs are known to not read test results properly.

A complete blood count does not include these tests.  If you think you have every test going, you may not have.  Most drs do not even think of this test.

It is worth getting this test, if only to eliminate the possibility, and maybe a repeat test in a year, so that you are not suffering unnecessarily.