Help please! I feel like I’m going mad
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Hi everyone. I’m 45 next month and think I’m going through the menopause. I’m so sad right now and feel so down n keep crying. I’m so bad mooded with my husband n children. Don’t know how they r putting up with me. Is it worth me seeing my doctor or not? Thanks in advance xx
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susan556 sarah99274
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Failing this there are loads of safer alternatives to HRT. You need it confirmed first this is what your going through. Have you stopped periods yet?
Sue xx
sarah99274 susan556
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louise25018 sarah99274
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Don’t beat yourself up because as awful as you feel right now it’s very normal for Peri.
Great idea to have a chat with your doctor and get some basic tests and emotional support to start with.
You aren’t going crazy my lovely so be kind to yourself, breathe and seek advice and support. This forum is great to sound off or just chat as we are all in the same boat and completely understand.
Take care and let us know how you get on xxx
sarah99274 louise25018
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ImagineOneDay sarah99274
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sarah99274 ImagineOneDay
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I feel exactly the same. Even tonight when I screamed at my 14 year old for spilling some milk when he was making me a brew I thought shall I go! Then cried cus I felt guilty for screaming at him! I can’t win with myself it’s a horrible feeling and it’s not me! I’m the life n soul of the party so bubbly so loud and I just feel so empty like I’ve nothing there?! I don’t like this feeling 😪 your reply has made me realise though that I’m not alone and that it’s part of life! Have u been to your doctor? Xxx
ImagineOneDay sarah99274
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All GP want to do is give antidepressants. And I do not want it. All day today I was shouting at my husband and feeling irritated by anything he said or did. Then my 8 year old daughter witnessing all this. I of course shouted at her time to time or very sharp with her too. Spent rest of evening crying with guilt. Feeling empty. It feels like living in a frosty jar; you vaguely see outside/life but you are not fully part of it. I SERIOUSLY FEEL sorry for our bubbly 8 year old daughter. She has got me as a mother. What a model I am at the moment. I am worried about mesding her future. She couldn't even go to sleep tonight seeing me tearful. Thank you for reading and understanding. Thank you for being there ladies.
maddysmom2015 sarah99274
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Hi Sarah,
You are not alone! It is definitely worth seeing your doctor though, as ImagineCeleb points out, they often want to just give us anti-depressants. So trust your instincts with their advice and make a judgement about what is right for you.
I would ask your doctor for vitamin level testing. At this time of year, especially for those of us in northern climates, we are not getting enough vitamin D. That can really affect mood and joints. And vitamin B is partially responsible for seratonin production; so if we are low on that anxiety and dread can be more pronounced.
You are not alone! I can't tell you how many times I have felt like a terrible parent because I could not control my moods. I try to learn what are my triggers (fatigue, too much sugar, stress at work) and anticipate them as best I can so I minimize my counter productive behaviors. At least naming them to those I love "I'm going to have an 'I didn't get to workout today' explosion" helps and sometimes gives a decent laugh in the house.
We are here for you!
NattyB46 sarah99274
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ImagineOneDay sarah99274
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klm1213 ImagineOneDay
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