Help please, maybe not anxiety not sure

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Hello to anyone whos reading this,

I understand this may not be that big of an issue to discuss but its been bothering me for as long as I can remember. So, there is a presentation whatever the importance level of the presentation is, mind you i am 18, I will get nervous  and will have to take pauses when speaking. I will also rush through the presentation, mumble and fidget throughout it. I also try to face the problems instead of running away from them but it doesnt seem to work for me. By the end of these presentation I am feeling terrible and embarrassed and have to build the courage to face the people that I have just presented to i.e. Classmates. I dont know what to do, also I am worried that this problem will affect me in the future with jobs and university which is coming soon as I am in the last year of sixth form. I also have a university interview coming up next month so I do not want to mess it up because of this problem. Thanks for reading this and is this something I can see a doctor for I am really desperate to get rid of this issue. 

P.S. I didnt know what to tag this as so :P

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    Have you been to see your GP, regards concerns ?. That is the first port of call.

     

    Try Relaxation Techniques  Mindfulness, Instructions on Amazon Books and Internet.

    Try Breathing Exercises, that will help you if you need to talk or give instruction.

    I used to be a Youth Leader and Instructor and had to give Lectures in Road Safety etc I gave my first lecture at eighteen and qualified Instructor, Youthwork when I was twenty one. When you give lectures you are always higher up than the student, this gives you an advantage.Keep your voice low and look at those who are been instructed. If you feel unsettled, breath slow through pursed lips that will control your breathing.

    If you are really tounge tied, pick on one or two in the room and imagine them in a clowns costume or with no clothes, this will help your confidence and help you concentrate on the lecture you are giving

    BOB

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      Thanks Ill check these methods out, Ive tried controlling my breathing pattern before I go up and presenting but unfortunatley it has not worked so far. I also seem to forget what I had planned to say for the presentation which leads to just leaving the rest of it and moving on. Ill most definatley try the picturing thingy :D Thanks again.
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    Yes you could discuss this with your doctor....

    But i also think you may benefit by looking at some coping skills especially for speaking infront of others.

    There is some great info on this on you tube done by proffesors and i have seen one about confidence for presentations and public seaking.

    It cant hurt to look and it may be of some benefit for you xx

    Good luck 😊

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    Have you ever discussed this with your classmates, I expect you will find that these feelings are actually very common. We think that everyone is looking out for mistakes and if we get anything wrong they will think we are stupid. The reality is that most of the people wont be listening at all, because they will be worrying about their own presentation and everyone else tries to make it as easy as possible, everyone is in the same boat.

    In fact most people get the whole thing wrong, the first problem is people try to hide their anxiety, don't. A good way to start is to tell everyone you don't really like doing these and that you get anxious, tell people you tend to talk to fast and ask them to tell you if your going to fast. Make some sort of self depreciating joke like if it really gets garbled just look as if you all understand it perfectly, it confuses the lecturer. Its surprising how difficult the audience can find these presentations this lightens the mood for everyone. Another thing people do wrong is they try to stick to their script and discourage questions. There is nothing worse than finishing a half hour presentation in 10 minutes and asking if there are any questions to be met with deadly silence. Encourage people to talk, if you can use little personal stories to illustrate points, ask the audience for opinions etc You can turn a formal stiff lecture into a conversation, you will know the subject from your preperation encourage questions but don't try for a simple right answer, try to discuss some of the issues. If you really havn't a clue say that and say you'll try to find out, no one knows everything. Watch your lecturers you'll see many of them using these sorts of ideas and the popular ones are usually the ones who have informal conversations.

    In reality the only way to feel better about these things is practice, a doctor can only prescribe drugs which will make the whole thing worse, have you ever had a presentation by someone half asleep or drunk.? You also have to be quite skilled and well practiced in using some of the relaxation tecniques before you can use them in anxiety generating situations. Your teacher might have some useful ideas.

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    Aww.this is common. Known as stage freight. Speak to your gp. They have stuff as needed for thid
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