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Hi everyone, I'm wondering if anyone can help me with how to help my (ex) boyfriend cope with depression?
We had been together for a few months, before all of a sudden his mood fell and he was extremely stresed at work. As well as this, his grandmother had passed away and was having social problems - friends turning against him etc. It caused his mood to be extremely low and he changed from being really upbeat to depressed and short tempered. All of a sudden he didn't want to speak to anyone, including me, and consequently began pushing me away. He broke up with me just over a month ago after telling me that his low mood and stress has made him lose feelings for me, and he doesn't feel able to love anybody or be in a serious relationship as a result of it. His GP has indicated depression but failed to act upon it!
A month later and he's been going back to a previous ex and once stayed over at her house. For example, last night he lied about where he was going and ended up sleeping over at his ex's house whom he hasn't spoken to in a year and had previously blocked her number and vowed to never speak to her again. I asked why he went back to her and he said it wasn't serious, they only kissed and that it meant nothing. He doesn't know why he called her and went to see her. This is extremely out of character for him - he used to hate the girl! And strangely, he doesn't like me seeing other men.
I want to help him, but I'm constantly being pushed away, and he largely takes out a lot of his stress and concerns on me. He doesn't want to get help despite me encouraging him to speak to someone about how he's feeling! Today he has told me not to speak to him ever again and that I should move on, but just a couple days ago he was telling me how much I mean to him and that misses me when I'm not around! He is now ignoring any messages I send him and is angry both at himself and me.
Please can anyone help me make sense of this and give me any advice on how to act? Thank you!
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