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Herpes diagnosis at 15

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I’ve recently been to a clinic after coming down with symptoms of herpes. I’m currently awaiting the results of the tests but it’s obvious to me as it was obvious to the nurse that I have it. It seems like the end of the world. I feel like as I grow up I’ll never be able to fool around as people do when they first go to uni and other normal things. I feel disgusting and ashamed. My outbreak started out lasting about a week, symptoms suddenly faded. But just over a week later I’m back in pain again. The pain is bad yes, and the restless nights are honestly horrible. But I can’t shake the feeling of regret and worry about the future for me. A few of my friends know but there’s so little they can do to comfort me as they know so little about it and what I’m going through. My parents don’t know and that is not an option, please don’t try to convince me otherwise I wish I could tell them but more bad would come out of it than good considering the situation in which I contracted the virus in. Can somebody please tell me that this isn’t the end of the world and make me feel better?

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  • john44460
    john44460 Guest

    Posted

    Hey let me be the first to tell you that it's not the end of the world. Your still young you have your whole life ahead of you. Its so much more in store for you that herpes can't stop. Hopefully your results come back negative but if it doesn't don't let it ruin your life . You will have to pratice safe sex.keep your head up I wish you the best always remember life is what you make it.

    • Guest
      Guest john44460

      Posted

      Thankyou for this, this is exactly what I needed to hear. Thankyou. 
  • coco70488
    coco70488 Guest

    Posted

    Hi, I was in a similar situation as you are in now. I thought the same as you, I felt gross and wondered if anyone will ever love me. years have past and Ive had amazing partners who have accepted me and helped me accept myself. Herpes does not define who you are, herpes doesn't control your future, you are beautiful and will remain beautiful. It isn't the end of the world you will find an amazing partner who will love you for you and thats something exciting to look forward too. You will go through struggles but please remember its okay you are not alone in this, you'll get through it and live a happy life just like everyone else.  

    • Guest
      Guest coco70488

      Posted

      Thankyou for these words, it’s comforted me a lot that you’ve been through this yourself and that everything has turned out okay for you. It’s given me hope for myself and the future. Thankyou again, it’s meant a lot.
  • keillor2
    keillor2 Guest

    Posted

    OK. I was 19 when I was diagnosed. It was so obvious to the nurse she just handed me the antibiotics. I won't push you to tell anyone you don't want to. You can mess around, just be safe and carry a condom in your purse. In 5 years I've had maybe 3 outbreaks. Usually triggered by a certain food/toy/lubricant. Yes what you eat can trigger it. The boyfriend I went to the clinic with that day, is still my boyfriend. You can still be happy. I thought I was disgusting and unlovable but everyone proved me wrong. I've only ever slept with 3 people so don't think it only happens to those who mess around, although I know so many people assume that. With the right treatment you can get to almost undetectable. Don't panic. Don't worry. Everyone here is here for you and others like you smile

    • Guest
      Guest keillor2

      Posted

      This has reallllly calmed me down and comforted me. It’s a really weird time atm for mebut hearing how you have gone through it all and now how it feels, and it’s worked out for you really reassures me for the future. Thankyou again smile xx
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