Herpes or not?? How do I tell someone about it?
Background information: I had genital herpes 9 months ago now and received it from my ex's as he had whitlows on his hands. I was required to attend a session at a sexual health clinic where I was tested for several STD's and STI's however I was not told what they would be testing for, but my results came back completely fine, no problems at all. I get symptoms of itchiness and soreness sometimes on my period and sometimes randomly, but I never get any lesions, scabs, sores or bumps (maybe it isn't genital herpes??? but let's just go with it as if it is for now)
I quite often have vaginal discharge and a lot of itching in which my female friends have mentioned to me could be thrush and that the symptoms of thrush can be confused with herpes
I have recently got into a new relationship and feel it's best for me to tell them. I am 19 and am not very confident so I'm terrified to tell them, that is if I would even be able too as I feel that I would be too scared to even say.
Some sexual activity has already happened, please excuse me for saying but fingering and handjobs were all that took place. I generally do not have an interest in sexual intercourse due to feeling that is not something I would enjoy, which I've thought prior to my first outbreak.
I am sure that there is no easy way to tell someone that you have an STI, nor do I expect it to be an easy thing to tell someone. I have not yet managed to come to terms with it myself and feel like that this will make it more difficult for me to tell them.
I would partially prefer to tell them over text as I would feel more comfortable doing so but I fear that they would see the message on their screen and not bother to reply, but I would also prefer to tell them in person as I feel that this is the better thing to do ans would make it easier for the both of us to talk about it.
How do I tell them? How do I even bring it up? Say it straight away? Ease them into it?
I really don't know and I would be so grateful for any advice on how I can tell themReport this