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Hi my name is kevin & my girlfriend is in denial that she is an alcoholic, firstly let me state that i personaly do not have an alcohol problem at all,secondly i shall share my experience with you and hopefully I may receive some guidance/help in return.
In 2002 my brother died aged 48 yrs, my siblings & myself beleive his alcohol abuse was a major contribution to his premature demise, his then girlfriend whom i have personaly known for some 25 yrs I observed was also in the early stages of alcohol abuse, as we became closer I offered the hand of help/friendship and helped her escape the enviroment she was becoming accustomed to and she moved in to share my home with me hence boyfriend/girlfriend.
In late 2003 my late brother's closest friend died, also alcohol related this was also a terrible blow to us all we loved him dearly as he was like a family member to us.
Now my girlfriend is constantly drinking, for 3 yrs now i have been fighting a losing battle with her drinking, I have set ultimatums,I have asked her to choose between vodka & me, I have tried everthing I can think of, but still i find empty vodka bottles hidden around the house. she blames anything & everything as the cause for her drinking,
she used to work as a nurse for the nhs for 20+ yrs but quit her job stating working with old,infirm & dying was to much for her & causing her to drink as an escape. since she quit her work she has steadily got worse,I regularly return from work to find her passed out drunk.I have heard it all "I can stop drinking any time I like", "I don't like the taste of it", "I hav'nt got a problem" etc. etc. etc. my late brother would say the very same things. recently I resorted to sending her to stay with her parents because I felt so angry with her I feared I was losing control of myself and I was frightened in case my anger turned to violence out of frustration, please don't think wrong of me I
love this girl very deeply, she is breaking my heart. Now as she is currently living with her parents I return home from work to find her passed out drunk in my back garden more recently she was passed out drunk in my front garden on my doorstep, She is covered in bumps & bruises,black eyes,cut lips all which suggests I have been violent towards her. I am at my wits end, she says she loves me but i feel that I come a poor second to vodka, there is no winners with alcohol just losers, she's losing me & I'm losing her vodka 2-0 us .
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