Hospitalisation from primary infection hsv 2 - looking for advice
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hi everyone,
i was hoping for some advice. my daughter, 16, recently lost her virginity, and contracted genital herpes from her partner, who was unaware he was infected. although it's really hard for me to deal with the fact that my child is sexually active, i really just want to help her. she became so ill from her primary infection she ended up in hospital for a week. she also contracted it orally and had herpetic stomatitis. she has braces and was in a lot of pain with it. obviously she was reluctant to explain it all, and she is having a hard time dealing with it emotionally. she is already having a recurrence, three weeks after her primary infection. as her mum, how can i support her and help the symptoms to pass quickly? any good sources for teens would also be much appreciated. im just at a loss for how to help her. thanks so much for any advice
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lina9898 Sabrina38
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Do you know which type it is? Probably type 1 because she has it orally as well right?
Sabrina38 lina9898
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hi there 😃 its type two unfortunately. i wont go into how she got it but im sure you can guess. she had an open sore from her braces so it must have made it easy for her to pick it up. such bad luck 😦
jayla9876 Sabrina38
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Hi, first of all you're amazing for supporting your daughter and the fact that you are trying to figure out ways to help her. i really recommend talking to a sexual health nurse at a clinic which can explain what she can do and how to deal with future outbreaks. support her emotionally and mentally by assuring her that it is not the end of the world and she can still have a love life
Sabrina38 jayla9876
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hi, thank you so much for your kind words. where we live we dont have walk in clinics but we can go to a special hospital for this kind of issue, so we will go. i was just hoping for some ideas to take to the table i suppose 🙂. its good to know others are able to have succesful relationships, of course it is in her mind that she is worried about it 😦
mel13527 Sabrina38
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Have you thought about getting her on suppressive medication for 6-12 months to get her through the initial stages of the virus? it generally gets better with less frequent and less severe outbreaks after the first 12 months. A therapist might also be a good idea, someone she can confide in who might be able to give her some coping mechanisms to deal with how she is feeling. Once she gets the outbreaks under control, it will bother her less and she won't think about it half as much as she does now, it really just takes time to come to terms with it.
All the best, i really feel for her!
Sabrina38 mel13527
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what a lovely reply... thank you so much! at the moment she has valtrex to take for three days during a breakout but i would like to think about something to get her past the first stretch... i know that there are some therapeutic vaccines being worked on so i am .hopeful for the future. when we were in the hospital i asked for a therapist/ family support doctor to come to speak to her and then to me, as i didnt want the trauma of all those exams lingering over her, not to mention this feeling of shame she is battling with. unfortunately he wasnt amazing but she laughed for days about it, so j supoose that's something good! do you know of any groups for teens online that she might be able to access?
xDx91xPi Sabrina38
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hey,
i sent you a private message its easier to send links as they will block them here 😃