Housework

Bang on, my husbands working full time, I'm at four weeks, and feel I should be doing every thing, and feel really guilty because I just can't do it, not with out being in so much pain, but trying to get my husband to understand why I can't is so hard, he hasn't had it done , so how could he. 😏

Morning susan. I totally understand where you are now as I'm 13 weeks (I think) but trust me it will get easier. Everybody recovers at their own pace there isn't really much right or wrong as even doctors have different advice! 6 weeks is nothing really. I know it's difficult sitting back and watching the dirt get thicker and silly things like people don't hang the washing on the line right or hoover like we do but just think about yourself getting better....those things aren't really that important are they? It's you that matters! Everyone sees us with smiles on our faces when really we could cry a river with pain frustration and just general everyday things but it will get better. Im Gardening driving shopping doing everything mostly but underneath I still cry in pain and frustration. This group has been amazing they are wonderful we are all in the same boat and made to feel normal. If you want to cry then cry if you want to yell put then do so as I found that hiding what's inside doesn't really do us any favours it makes people forget the agonising trauma we have been through. Time will heal us just don't rush. Go relax in the sun make the most of it but 6 weeks is nowhere near enough time for people to think we are back to normal.

Hi Susan27029

im 13 weeks post op TKR. Dust and dirt!

for the six months prior to op we awaited builders to extend our house and add a family room and porch! The very day I had the op they started, you don't tell builders you can't cant start otherwise another six months go by. So on discharge I came home to mess and more mess. This went on for eight weeks plus. We had 11 workmen in the house at one time and with the cutting through bricks more mess. After lunch I used to sit in armchair heating on curtains closed a sleep for hour or two builders were amazed that I could. So dust and dirt were not a problem for me. At end of build they cleaned up and hoovered left all in relatively good order. Now hubby painting he has had to clean as part of preparation could not have worked out any better! 

Snap! I am 56 and so agree with you on this. I'm now 10 weeks following a pkr, after waiting 11 years to have it done. I so expected all the discomforts, but what I didn't expect was the up and down days. We all moan about cooking, cleaning, ironing, food shopping but oh I wish I was able to do all these things. I too had active family and work life, but all that seems to be passing me by at the moment......and I don't like it one bit. Some days the medicating, exercising , massaging, resting, icing takes up the whole day and when you're expecting some benefits from them and nothing happens it is so disheartening. Gardening is our hobby, and although my wonderful hubby is planting out my sweet peas, vegetables and putting out hanging baskets (which I did make, whist perching my bum on a high stool instead of standing!)......I want to do it! My op was 24 March so as I said I'm a good few weeks down the line, am signed off work until 25 June, and not expecting to go back even after that date. Physio are telling me to " walk normally" but also saying that my muscles "need to wake up" - well I'd love to "walk normally" and believe you me it's not for the lack of trying! I do drive normally and yesterday did manage to get in driving seat and moved car 5 yards on our drive! It's progess I know, but crickey it's so slow. I'll know I've recovered when I (a) can bend down and pick up my grandaughter and (b) can bend down and clean shower cubicle properly!. And to top it all my other knee (which isn't too good either!) has started to play up. 

I had really bad day yesterday, seemed to cry at drop of a hat and have just surfaced after a sleepless night - does anyone else out there suffer from hot flushes from taking medication, that's another annoyance! Don't worry about getting things off your chest on this forum - some of the posts on here have brightened dull days (and nights) for me! 

Right........am off to tackle that shower cubicle - happy days! 

Hi Sue, you are not on your own.

im only 15 days post op and already things are getting me down, like the housework etc.

im also 58 years young and up to now I have been very active, so I can completely understand where you are coming from.

i know it is very difficult for us to sit back and let loved ones help you albeit they don't do it your way, but I've come to the conclusion that the dust and everything else can wait, we are all on the road to our recovery and it just takes time, I'm getting into a bed every day where the bed is not made and are having to try and adjust the sheets and duvet when I'm in bed, that's a laugh in itself, but my hubby is working hard and then he has to come home and just do the basics, so I do appreciate everything he does, it just frustrates me because I cannot do it, so keep smiling, keep your pecker up and just try and take each day as it comes and let tomorrow take care of itself.xx take care Sue xx you do have friends on the forum xx