How Much Is A Person Expected to Cope With?!
Posted , 18 users are following.
Perimenopause is a complete joke! I have spent the last two years wading through a never-ending list of symptoms, and I am so tired of having to keep fighting and keep persevering. I know that there will be an end, and I know that I have to keep going, but I am so exhausted, and I am so angry that I have to keep living like this. It just seems cruel and unfair. I know that I haven't done anything to deserve this or to bring on these symptoms, but it is just so hard for me to understand that hormones can be causing all of this and that it can just go on and on and on.
Can anyone relate?
Some support and understanding would be greatly appreciated, as I am feeling so fed up with it all.
At least I am now Day 74 and no period, so I must be getting somewhere, right?!
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sunaina1983 bev27429
Posted
I can understand how u feel mam
Me tooo suffering from this from last 18 months.
Soo many symptoms every day.
Friends of my age r enjoying life and me suffering..feel bad thinking all this.
And ur totally right NO ONE UNDERSTAND us at this stage of life..
Waiting for better days.
Want to be normal me again.
I think its hardest phase of life: Menopause.
Unended symptoms ..Donot know when this phase be over .
Hang is there dear
Ur not alone
mel65197 bev27429
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Oh my goodness can I relate to this!! I am with you 100%. So tired of being tired and feeling unwell only to be told there is "nothing" wrong. Some days I am more accepting than others. But a lot of the time I feel just like you do - mad, frustrated, and exhausted from dealing with it. I ask myself the same thing - how can ALL this be related to hormones?? And why don't all women going through peri/meno feel this way? I have lots of friends who are just cruising through this with a hot flash here or there and that's it! So that gets me worrying that it is something else and not JUST hormones. I get anxious thinking the doctors are missing something, because how can you feel this bad and there be nothing wrong?? So, yes I understand you completely and am so sorry you are having such a rough time. It sucks. xo
crazycatlady67 bev27429
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I'm with you! 18 months into perimenopause..only 3 periods this year..FSH is sky high so shows I'm nearly at my last period. started HRT 2 weeks ago. flushes, 20+ per day, no sleep, fat, dry skin, thin hair, a lady garden like the gobi desert, zero interest in getting jiggy, forgetful, irritable and moody. Plus everyone just says ah is it hormones?? 🥵😡🤬🤪💩🧟♀️
Rainbow976 crazycatlady67
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I am also a crazy cat lady lol. I share all these symptoms but am afraid I am not near the end of the journey.
Like everyone here, I am frustrated and tired of going to Dr. after Dr. with nothing found. I am not even 43 yet but feel 60 most days. Periods closer together, massively losing hair, grow a beard around ovulation and before period, no libido, fat, pimples, can't fall asleep, constant neck pain and most recently joint pain in hands.
I truly feel like there must be something more serious wrong. I don't understand why some women have symptoms so young and/or more debilitating than the general population. Or why doctors cannot figure out the ups and downs of hormones so we at least know that's what it is .
amy341731 Rainbow976
Posted
Ugh, its just terrible isn’t it? I’m 48 and have had these symptoms for about two years and the only thing I’ve been told was to go on Lexapro which was absolutely horrible and made me feel absolutely sick and even worse. I feel for you and I’m so glad I found this group of wonderful ladies. I wish I had more to offer in way of help but knowing we are not alone and are NOT crazy even though we may be made to feel that way at times does make me feel better. Hugs to you!
Rainbow976 amy341731
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Thanks! This all started for me right after turning 40 which seems so young. I guess I just wasn't aware how severe the symptoms would be or that it can go on for years. Such a bummer.
susan39015 crazycatlady67
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A lady garden like the gobi desert. Amost fell off my chair, funniest thing ever, thank you for making me laugh ❤
susan39015 amy341731
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wow im 48 too and same thing- tried only a few days of Lexapro and couldnt do it felt so much worse which i dont know how its possible wth only a few days. No way i cldve continued the few weeks they say it takes to work. It just felt like more poison in my body. So frustrated bcuz i know a few ppl who take it and it helps them.
am66 Rainbow976
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hi I'm really surprised your doctor hasnt spoken to you about HRT, 43 is young to be going through it but peri menopause can last 10 years. The benefits of HRT are greater than the risks for younger women under 50. Depending of course on family history of breast cancer, stroke etc. GP's are issued guidelines to deal with peri/ menopausal symptoms and one of these is to refer to a menopause clinic. This is what I would ask for if I were in your situation. My mother went through early menopause before age 45, I does happen. I think maybe doctors are not taking it seriously as you're a bit younger than average but I am pretty sure a lot of women have symptoms for years and don't realise its peri menopause(myself included) . Good luck x hope you get some help x
am66 bev27429
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hi Bev, I'm so sorry you're going through it. I can completely relate to this, I had symptoms for years and didn't even know it was peri menopause. I felt almost suicidal with all the emotional changes, literally felt like a different person. crying all the time, periods of rage where I would throw things and break plates! not to mention feeling physically so ill, aching joints, itchy skin almost everywhere, gynae itching and total loss of libido and anxiety. I also felt quite isolated as my friends either didn't want to talk about it or had cruised through with a few hot flushes. I started HRT patches after I couldn't take any more of it. This helped me so much, I suffered from bloating as a side effect of the HRT but I was willing to put up with it to get some quality of life back. I don't smoke or drink alcohol or caffeine and eat fairly healthy diet but none of this was enough to help. I know there is a lot of publicity recently about HRT but I feel a lot of women go through hell when it could help. women obviously have to weigh up the risks. I feel like I just wouldn't function without it. I also feel there is a pressure to treat "naturally" as it is a natural process, and this does help for some but not all. I feel like I've let the side down when I tell some women I'm on HRT. Men would not put up with it and grit their teeth without help if they had to go through it ! I had a mirena coil so I didn't know where I was with menstruation, which is why I think I didn't realise initially what was going on. I really hope things get better for you soon xx
am66 bev27429
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Hi Bev, I wrote quite a long reply to your post but it's not posted up am hoping it will appear but I do relate to all you've said. I feel like my friends haven't been as bad and have just had a few hot flushes( not trying to say this is nothing as they can be bloody awful) but they don't seem to have changes in mood , crying constantly and rage that I've had. I literally have felt like I could not go on. felt so unwell with so many symptoms that no one tells you about. I went on HRT patches and this helped me immensely. I was concerned about the recent headlines but I spoke to my doctor and I think the benefits outweigh the risks for myself. my life would not be worth living without it as I just could not function I was like a different person. really hope it passes soon for you. Not all doctors are sympathetic , so I would look at seeing someone else if you don't feel supported. xx good luck
bev27429 am66
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Thanks very much for your messages. I am glad to hear that you are feeling much better. Like you, I have had similar symptoms: numbness (emotional and physical), crying fits, extreme anger where I literally wanted to smash things (my boyfriend thought that a punching bag would be a good idea, LOL). The anger has been so weird for me, as I am normally such a calm pacifist who would never go beyond mild irritation in her life! My moods can go from peace to irritation to anger to despondency in literally seconds; it's so bizarre. I have also had myriad physical symptoms (sweating, bloating, headache, dizziness, GI issues), but these are generally easier to cope with.
HRT, for me, isn't an option, as when I tried Prometrium (bioidentical progesterone), I went into a really dark and scary place, and I can't take unopposed estrogen. Plus, from what I have read, I am suffering from sky high estrogen, rather than declining estrogen, as many sources might indicate. I found this out from an endocrinologist and women's hormone specialist in the city where I live.
I just reassure myself that I always return to myself. In the meantime, I am just weathering the storm in the best way that I know how. Luckily, I have massive support all around me!
I am now on Day 78 and counting!