how should I disclose? please help.

Hello, so I received HSV2 in 2015 from a man who didn’t tell me he had the STD because he wanted me to date him and basically didn’t want to scare me away. after 3 months of unprotected sex, I contracted the virus. 

2 successful sexual relationships later, i’ve come to terms with the condition for the most part. however, im currently in a sticky situation and I would love some help or advice on how to disclose to my new potential partner. 

Right now, i’m extremely interested in a boy, let’s call him John. we are getting increasingly closer (constant texts, facetimes, you name it) and it’s easy to hold back on sex right now because we live 3 hours drive away from each other. however, the closer we get, the more I know we want to have sex with each other and the more I need to tell him so we can move forward. however, the problem is that we already have had sex - last summer. Let me explain.. at the time, I was having consistent sex with a friend who I had already disclosed to. we always used condoms (no meds) and we never encountered any problems after having sex for over a year. So when I hung out with John last summer, he was staying at my house with me for the weekend. We got very drunk and although I denied the idea of sex that night a few times, I ended up wanting to give in because a) I was confident in having sex with someone since I was already doing so religiously b) I was horny and drunk and c) I had a condom. so he put it on and we began to have sex, but after a few minutes it fell off. I immediately noticed and we stopped. I did not disclose and no issues arose. We have been friends ever since but our relationship has now recently blossomed again and we are getting serious, and I don’t know how to tell him that not only do I have herpes, but I had it when we had sex last summer. I feel so terrible and it’s eating me up. any advice would be amazing 

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