How to deal while I put off the surgery
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I have stage two urethra and uterine prolapses. My ob wants to do a hysterectomy to fix the uterus and some sort of stiches fit the urethra prolapse. I have much discomfort, some pain, and incontinence, and all the utis and other problems that go with it. The idea of having surgery is scary to me, and what healing may be like, let alone trying to arrange for help with that amount of time being down (I have three of my own children plus my three nieces and nephew that I care for). I guess I'm hoping there is something I can do to help with the discomfort until I decide to have the surgery.I don't have anyone I can talk to about this, my mom is pushing me to go for surgery asap, but she has never dealt with any prolapse. Any suggestions would be great. My doctor made it sound like it was surgery or deal with it the whole thing is very depressing, not to mention it has killed my sex life!
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joan98163 katie17253
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Alybee katie17253
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just to say I know how you feel and agree that you should have the surgery if it's really affecting your life too much. I went on a year too long really getting more and more limited and more discomfort. Really didn't seem to be another choice as I had tried everything and really didn't want surgery.
and I feel for you with the children etc as i was/ am free with good help. That is the problem, you need to do nothing and have major support at least at first.
I am 6 wks now and just turning the corner and can feel all the benfiits,like coming out of a dark tunnel. Yes it is totally depressing and it doesn't get better . So I think it's best if you work out how you can arrange the help and support and just go for it .. But with a good experienced surgeon.
Wish you all the best. We all totally understand on this site.
chris00938 katie17253
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Jan999 katie17253
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LadyPink katie17253
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I decided to seek help. My GP sent me to see a lovely LADY consultant/surgeon at our local NHS hospital who 4 months later operated on both prolapses and also 'tightened the undercarriage area' which she said was a "bit flabby' (ha ha). The following weeks afterwards are very challenging and you will need patience and help with housework and children - NOT lifting anything heavier than a full kettle for many weeks! But, let me tell you - IT IS SOOO WORTH IT!!! I would tell my my daughters the same "please don't put up with the misery any longer; go ahead and have the operation, the results will change your life for ever one hundred per cent." It IS scary - yes - no one was more frightened than me before I had it done especially since at the age of 68 I'd suddenly got married again to a wonderful man & found a sex life again - so I really didn't want to lose that OR my new husband. Well, I needn't have worried; 11 weeks after the operation things in the bedroom department got back to normal and everything was better than I could have ever imagined. My husband said it was like sleeping with a 19 year old - I DID ask my surgeon jokingly about a face lift at the same time by the way but she laughingly declined!
I would certainly recommend it to you especially as you sound so young. You will be as delighted as I have been I'm certain and your partner will be too - you mustn't forget him by the way. You will feel so much better about yourself; have new confidence; feel attractive once more and feel sexy. Your husband and children will see a whole new YOU and so will the rest of your friends and family. If you leave things as they are it will simply get worse.
My surgeon didn't cut and remove anything; she tucked and folded loose tissue from the prolapses then stitched it down. It does feel very slightly different to me down there but my dear husband said to him everything seemed 'lovely' - sorry to be graphic - but we're all girls together here.
If you want to ask me anymore questions - feel free to contact me again when I'll be only to happy to answer them for you no matter how silly you may think they are. In the meantime, do read as much as you can online about the condition and watch the operation on YouTube. It's important to understand everything in order that you fully understand what needs doing and you can also ask the relevant questions when you see your consultant.
Best wishes, LadyPink
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