How to fight the feeling of overwhelming loneliness?

Ahh it is the worst feeling. I've felt more depressed at other times in my life, but then I felt like I had someone to talk to about it. Not having anyone, and the feeling of absolute aloneness is such a terrible one; I'm really not enjoying it.

Thank you! It's honestly so nice to hear someone say that.

I've decided to go back to school in September, fingers crossed I'll be accepted, which I'm hoping I'll be able to meet people through. My house contract ends next month so I can then move away from the horrible and vile people that I live with. I've been in hospital a few times over the past few months due to suicide attempts and just feeling so low, and I've heard them say really horrible things about my 'condition' people are mean. I can't really do anything about my job sadly, there aren't many part-time jobs where I live and I need it to support myself through college. There also isn't much opportunity to talk to any of my colleagues to be honest. I will have a look around for a new job though, thank you.

I've been on meds for the past few years, but nothing I feel has really helped me that much. My doctor keeps on suggesting new things to me so hopefully I can find something that works for me soon.

Thank you for taking the time to read about my subjectively pathetic problems and help me out a bit... it means a lot.

I am glad my words helped a bit. 

Sounds like things have been really tough for you. 

Going back to school sounds good, I hope you get accepted too. It would definitely be a great way to meet new people and if you don't like your housemates it will be good to get away from them  

I understand about your job but I guess at least you have one for the minute which is a good position to be in and no harm having a look for one with more suitable hours  

It sounds like your doc is trying to help as much as possible. As far as I have come across so far that is what your supposed to do if meds aren't working, keep trying news one. 

You are more than welcome and your problems are not pathetic. . . if I am may so subjectively!!   

I am going to copy and paste some tips for you in a new reply that may help. 

Best wishes, 

Agirl xx

My "Golden List"  for depression/anxiety

1. Identify when you are anxious and DO something about it 

RELAX  breathing technique, going somewhere quiet and just relaxing for a few minutes (perhaps a few minutes outside and listening to birds or watching the world go by), mindfulness (look up online, also involved in yoga) and meditation, listening to relaxing music.

OR ACT – tell someone how you feel if they’re bothering you, stop procrastinating, often this involves just committing to making a decision even if you don’t really like the options you have

This step also involves realising what might be at the root of your anxiety/depression altogether. Is there something in your life that’s actually really bothering you and you’ve just been ignoring it? And more importantly, is there something you can do about it?

It’s also important  to identify any negative thinking styles (Moodgym, an online cognitive behavioural therapy course, or some self help books – eg. David Burns Feeling Good, the New Mood Therapy will help with this) and start to counteract by identifying when you think the thoughts and then counteracting by questioning how true/false  the thought is and trying to look at things in a more positive perspective and then deciding on your next step (stop mindreading/work on relationship with such and such etc.)

2. Sleep 

Ditch caffeine in the evenings (or even altogether), wake up at the same time every morning and go to bed same time every night. Your body craves routine! Try not to eat too late as it will disrupt your sleep but make sure you’re not hungry going to bed as you’ll find it very hard to get to sleep then

3. Exercise

Can be hard to get going but will help sleep. Running is good as it helps get rid of all the adrenaline so it decreases anxiety and the cardio of course is good for your overall health. Running has also been shown to increase what  is called neurogenesis – making new brain cells. This process is decreased in depression but can start up again in response to exercise such as running. It takes maybe 3-4 weeks to kick in though. (The same as antidepressants which work by the same method it is proposed ) Yoga can be great for relaxing too. Put on some quiet music and soft lightingand away you go at your own pace. You can find videos on Youtube  You could even go for a walk if you didn’t like the sound of running or yoga. Whatever works for you! :D And don’t forget exercise means endorphins and endorphins mean less stress, more happiness! :D

4. Eat well

Eat regularly and well. Try to feed your body nice healthy food. If you get IBS this really helps. Keeping a food/sleep/activities diary can help show if foods you eat/tiredness etc. are triggering IBS symptoms/irritability/low mood.

5. Do things that make you happy/relaxed

Even if you are finding it hard to get enjoyment out of things you used to, still try to keep it up. Whatever you do, don’t give up and go into rebellion mode and stop doing normal everyday things. Even if you don’t get any study/work done, try to make sure you’re doing SOMETHING. Watch your fav. TV show, play/listen to music, go for a walk outside in sunshine, read a book. You will feel better when you get active as you won’t feel guilty/lazy for not doing anything. Set small goals for yourself e.g. today I’m going to tidy my bedroom and shower and get to bed on time. The more you accomplish them one at a time, the more you can start adding to the list! :D

6. Surround yourself with positive people or people who are good for you/supportive 

no point wasting your time with people who will  bring you down :D  (That’s where we come in!! )

Thank you so much athol!! I am studying for exams and sometimes I wonder if I am on this too much, trying to help people. I like to try and share my advice as I have shared similar experiences as a lot of people on the site asking questions and I like to help as much as possible. Makes my day to know that it is appreciated so much. 

You have made me very happy and warm inside. I hope you have a wonderful day. Where I am it is lovely outside and I got my hair cut and now this wonderful comment from you and the other one on my discussion with the tips. - Happy out for the day. 

Thank you and my best, warmest wishes, 

Agirl xxx