How to overcome regret and fear from old job terrible mistakes? I feel so angry at myself and worried

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hey guys

i hope all is well. i asked this question before but will simplify it better here.

so im 27 and currently working as an engineer. however during uni i worked part time as a waiter in a terrible bar chain.

the job was bad for me anyway as i am diabetic and had regular hypos, but what i regret the most is the terrible inappropriate mistakes i made which i fear will haunt my future.

i ended up getting fired from flirting inappropriately with female customers and whilst joking with colleagues even though i am most definitely not, i just said it in the wrong way of fhe joke being homophobic.

this was 2-3 years ago but when i look back i get terrified thinking what if someone reports me in the future or if i will be in serious trouble from what i did. thing is i awfully regret and wish i never did what i did.

worst of all i feel like nobody would believe how sorry i am and feel like i would be in serious trouble if o was reported after moving on.

i know its quite confusing but im ranting from being worried. please help with some advice and opinions.

thanks very much

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    Hi I remember your question from before and I was one of many who answered you. I can't say anything other than what I said before but if you can't get over this and move on my advice is to seek medical help. I am surprised you are still obsessing over this to be honest. You seem to have developed anxiety over something which happened years ago and was relatively innocuous. x

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    your sorry thats all you need, im sure people at work have said or done worse than what you said. everyone is so pc these days so its proberly a worry. but this has happened and is done. f it. move on. dosnt make u a bad person for having a bit of banter. sounds like your being too hard on urself.

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