How will I know
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hi just after soon advice really I have currently been off sick from work since mid August and am due to return on 6th January which I absolutly terrified of . I just wanna know if this means I'm not ready or is it just normal to be this scared. I'm terrified of having to get back in to the routine of work getting up in mornings plus being around and facing everyone. I'm so scared that if I put it off any longer I will not be able to return . I feel like I am totally stuck I a whole I have waited ages for my cbt to start but feel coz there is such a gap between sessions that I am just being left to deal with things on my own . Doc is great but there is only so much they can do . Just feel like I want my life back but my mind is saying something different in scared of how much I just wanna hide away I feel like I can only just cope living normally let alone with work thrown in . Really not sure what to do
thanks in advance
Dom
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ross66245 domdomz
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I was off work for a few weeks in October and I was feeling the same as you, worrying about going back and if I didnt go back I would never be able to. But I spoke to work and spoke to the doctor and I was able to return on reduced hours which helped me ease back into it all. If you can speak to your doctor and ask about this I would recommend it. Going back full time scared me but I worked my way back up starting with half days and building it up from there.
domdomz ross66245
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Thank u for your advise
ross66245 domdomz
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But you are spot on when it comes to how not enough is done to support people going through all this! I had to self refer for CBT and I then waited for a month before the initial assesment...and then told the waiting list would be 3-4 months! I get there are more serious cases out there than me but surely more can be done to help. 3-4 months feeling like this was unthinkable to me.
domdomz ross66245
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I waited about 3 months and now the sessions r so far apart I feel like I'm just being left to it . Mental health team needs looking at big time..
thank u for your reply
Aspinan domdomz
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Do discuss it further with your GP and employer, your employers will not want you in wirk if you are unfit as it's against H&S both internal and statutory.
Ive always waited until I feel "ready myself" to return and then it's a fazed return, maybe just doing mornings or a couple of hours, the details can be agreed between you and work but you must be happy with it and if it doesn't work out then you weren't ready.
My councellor said you need to feel bored of being off before going back but we all know practically that's not always possible is it.
Hope that helps.
domdomz Aspinan
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btyrad13 domdomz
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I am curious if perhaps your position at work was really the cause of all this anxiety? I myself think mine stemmed from work. Have you thought possibly about a new job/ beginning somewhere else?
I am having the same debate right now as you but I think I will search for a better work environment. Btw did any of you lose a lot of weight with this?
domdomz btyrad13
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I have thought of trying to get a new job but I think if I can't be normal around people that know me what chance do I have with people I don't . And I feel like everytime things get to this point in my jobs I always run awAy so I feel I need to face it or I will always run in the future .
I did loose loads of weight but since starting my new tablet mirtazapine it has made me start eating again .
Thank u for your reply
lucy04117 domdomz
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domdomz lucy04117
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Aspinan domdomz
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I feel like closing down and hiding away also but I push and do what I can, you don't have to try and be normal and to normal things just take small manageable steps.
Neil
domdomz Aspinan
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anne240 domdomz
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i eventually had to go onto benefits as could not work due to mental illness. Only you will know whether you can face work. Go back only if you feel ready.
domdomz anne240
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See I don't think I would get benifits last time this happened about 5 years ago I had to give up my job they gave me esa for a little while but then sent me for a meeting assessment and made me go back to work and I was loads worse that time could barely leave the house .
im just worried I'll never feel ready :-(
thank u for your reply