HSV 2 Advice
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hi, Im a 24 yo Female and i was just diagnosed with HSV 2 last week by someone who claims he didnt know he had it. im a pretty strong person but this is really tearing me a part. i havent told anyone, family or friends. my initial outbreak was terrible and painful. luckily for the antiviral, my symptoms have subsided. my question is for those diagnosed with HSV 2, how soon did you have sex again? not that im itching to have sex, im just asking. also, in the first year of being diagnosed, how frequent were your outbreaks and how severe were they? also how likely am I to transmit the virus to someone when having unprotected sex and protected sex, both when NOT having an outbreak?
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jojo8618 asia86993
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well if u have it ALWAYS USE CONDOMS! they say dont have sex wit a outbreak which i get but i feel like with protection your spread rate is lesser..i wish they would just find the cure already!
asia86993 jojo8618
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i know! i hope they find a cure..ive been doing all this research my brain hurts. im sure a vaccine is in works but i need to be cured 😦 are you in a relationship? has this affected your sex life?
jojo8618 asia86993
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i am in a relationship ,but insure of if either one has it we ALWAYS USE CONDOMS we not ready for kids yet
FreeSoul87 asia86993
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well, while getting my refill w the dr , I asked her how likely it is to transmit this to my partner . she said w the antivirals and condoms its unlikely. after my outbreak, i was on antivirals for months before I even had sex . we even had sex once without a condom.
asia86993 FreeSoul87
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thats the thing, i heard the antivirals help a lot with preventing transmission. i just dont know how often i will be on them since this is my first outbreak. are you in a relationship? how often do you not use condoms?
FreeSoul87 asia86993
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we didnt use a condom once and he still didnt get it, otherwise we use condoms. im on valtrex everyday for supressive therapy and I havent had a breakout
asia86993 FreeSoul87
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how are you able to take you antivirals everyday? is that something you discussed with your doctor? i was told by my doctor to come in and get antivirals whenever i think i maybe experiencing an outbreak.
FreeSoul87 asia86993
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i spoke w my dr , Ive had numerous outbreaks so to stop them or decrease them, im on valtrex every day. i havent had an outbreak in months
sarah62791 asia86993
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I'm I'm sorry you're going through such a hard thing especially being soon young. I've been racking my brain doing research for I too was diagnosed. It is a very emotional and heat breaking issue to deal with. And to be honest this particular fourm doesn't help. All I see is people dreading the thought of having herpes, which is understandable but really hard for people who actually have it. this was the first post I wanted to reply on. I think you'll be fine there are a lot of positive reply as you've gotten back. Just be honest with your partner and and work together to stay safe. I praying for a cure as well.
asia86993 sarah62791
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thank you for this. i appreciate it. im grateful to hear people thriving in relationships with this diagnosis because it gives me hope that one day i can still actually find love, get married and start a family. are you in a relationship?
sarah62791 asia86993
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No I'm I'm not in a relationship right now. I'm terrified at the thought if having to tell someone that I've gotten close to. But eventually I would like find love and hopefully get married one day. So I'm going to stay open to the possibility of date and I'll just have to tell when it's time to. I know I seem a little nonchalant but trust me I've just come to terms with this. I finally stopped crying myself to sleep every night and stopped asking why me/ what did I do to deserve this? I still don't know the answer is so I guess it's not for me to know, but I do believe in God and know that all things work together for good fir those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. Thanks for responding it was a weight off to finally talk to someone about this. best of luck to you.
Soscared5678 asia86993
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idk if you have a FB but theres a lot of support groups on there with a lot of articles and info that would answer your questions. national help is one of the groups with over 10k members. lots of positivity and support. i read an article last night about the risk of transmission from a woman who is on antivirals and using a condom to a uninfected man is about 4-10% which translates to me as a low risk but possible.
asia86993 Soscared5678
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thank you. i will definitely check it out. how are you doing? have you told anyone yet?
Soscared5678 asia86993
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im doing good, but i attribute some of that to my profession as a microbiologist. I can think about it a bit more scientifically. also the groups on FB have been great and the guy that gave it to me is really sorry and had no idea. so i think all of that has helped me cope, but i havent told anyone yet besides random people on the internet lol im working hard to feel normal again. wbu?
christina25487 asia86993
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how long have you been on suppressive therapy? i just started and i dont know if i should wait to have sex or not .. my fear is transmitting it