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My wife, aged 37, has changed a lot in the last couple of years, the main symptom being increased anxiety levels. The timing and nature of the symptoms are very like PMS, but their duration and severity are incomparably worse than used to be the case.
As a squeamish husband i do my best to stay clear of such details, but her recent purchasing patterns are suggestive to me of heavier, worse, whatever, menstruation.
I've recently started to surmise that she's in the early stages of menopause. She's youngish but not ridiculously so, plus the symptoms are there and I wonder if there mightn't be a link with complications during (successful) IVF treatment 4 years ago which led to her losing an ovary.
The idea that she might be in the early stages of menopause came to me quite recently, when I stumbled across the shopping bag full of super-ultra-heavy duty sanitary products that she didn't ever used to need, as far as I know.
Prior to that I'd been tending towards a view that she'd somehow picked up some kind of standalone anxiety disorder.
In many ways i'd be really pleased if the problem was something with a finite time horizon, because the prospect of living with her as she is now for another 40 years or whatever was starting to feel quite unrealiatic. There are a few genuine issues in our compatability as a couple, not helped by her having a stressful job and shouldering more of the burden at home, but there's just something about the way she is that seems, well, it's so like a bad case of PMS, so irrational, panicky, and so on, that it seems like there's more to it.
At its heart I suppose my question is quite a simple one - as a husband would it be sensible for me to bring this up as a discussion topic with her? What would be the best way to do this?
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