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I don't know what to do to help my husband and his depression. When things get better and we all seem to back to normal the shoe drops and he's lost to us again.
I know he needs his time alone. But when he doesn't seem to care about us it hurts. He sprained my shoulder in April and I'm still dealing with the pain, see a different doctor this week. So with my left shoulder hurting, I'm left handed I can't get eerything done without major pain. So he has to do more around the house.
If I don't ask him to get things done then we have a messy house that brings us all down.
Daughter does the best she can. She dislocated her knee and sprained her ankle in Dec. I had gallbladder surgery in Nov. He has step up when we needed him but if we aren't in major pain he shuts down and forgets that we are still not 100% yet.
I can't do the washing of the clothes because our machine isn't working right and you have to wring the clothes out. I can't do it, so I have to wait until he decides that he needs clothes. He doesn't think we need clothes too.
He's on meds but not getting any help. Seeing a counselor is the out come of my shoulder getting hurt, so I don't trust the counselors. I'm worried about him but don't know how to help him.
His depression is hurting all of us. We miss him when he's gone but don't look forward to when he gets home for we don't know who's coming home. When he's down we go down. It breaks our heart knowing he's hurting.
I'm worried if he keeps going the way he is he will loss his daughter. I'm scared of lossing him. He left us for a week in Oct. daughter didn't handle it will. Most kids don't like being left, she still can't forgive him for leaving her.
I'm so frustrated. I'm sick of all the pain from surgery and shoulder pain and all emotionally pain. My heart is breaking to much. We never know if we will do anything to upset him. He just got over a bad bug and now he's down and doesn't spend time with us which makes us feel like he doesn't care or love us.
I just dont know what to do anymore. I have been around depression since I was a kid. It wasn't easy then and still isn't.
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