I can’t get out of this low mood

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My baby is now ten months old and throughout my pregnancy i had really low mood and no support i felt lonely all the time and teary

once my child was born things got worse but i pushed all feelings to the back of my mood and carried ob as now i had three children to look after but this low mood kept creeping back and taking over to the point i didnt want to get out of bed some days

i have the feeling of not wanting to be here anymore but then think i have three children to think about my husband is a selfish man and all he does is think about himself i get no support and that is what get me sown more to the point i wish my life would end because i dont think anyone really cares about me

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    hi please seek professional help or speak with other family members what you have is postpartum depression and its very serious, i know this because i went through this 3 months after having my baby, am slowly getting out of it my baby is now 15 months and i have it hard sometimes as i struggle badly with health anxiety/ postpartum anxiety so i still have not fully recover and i have 4 small kids so it does make it difficult for me, i know what your going through so i do advise you to speak with someone or else it will get worst but if you see someone a therapist or something then your on the road to healing, take care of your self

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      I appreciate your reply this has been going on since i fell pregnant to now it and my baby is 10 months old i have contacted the doctors for an appointment as it has come to a point where i feel like i cant go on anymore

      i have no support at home whatsoever as im just expected to carry on

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    your children care remember you have your children to live for so someone loves you thats what depression does, i cant just tell you to ignore it because i have been here to this point but when i looked at my little family i knew they need me no matter what i am going through am still fighting for them, sit your husband down and let him know how serious this is, after getting my husband on board and letting him know how serious this is, he was very supportive of me no matter what bit other family or friends was not there for me

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      Ive sat my husband down but this has made me realise what a very selfish man he is and instead of helping me deal with this he is running away from the problem

      this obviously adds to my low mood that is why im stuck in this rut and feel like there is no way out even if i wanted a way out i could not do that to my children i feel i have no one to talk to and no one understands

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    hi....This is DEFINATELY post natal depression. first and formost seek help from your GP first and concentrate solely on yourself and your children who love and need you. Depression is an illness like any other and negative thoughts are part of the illness, it is not true, its an illusion. i have been there twice and antidepressants saved me, along with being around people who care, even if it's ladies suffering the same as you. I joined a post natal group and made lovely friends, we helped each other. Once you start to feel better you can then rationally decide if you want to stay in your marriage. but one step at a time, you can and will get better.

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      thank you for tour message it means alot im so reluctant to take the anti depressents as i feel like i will be reliant on them i dont know how they will help me as i believe i will get worse when first taking them

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    Hi Noreen - get a referral from the doc for a psychologist/counsellor or therapist. You need a safe space where you can unload and share the grief. Medications are prescribed to help you balance your mood and that will amke it easier for you to share. Meds are not permanent, merely a tool to help you on your way. Your husbands' selfishness will only change when he decides to do so. If you are able to compartmentalize the issue, his power will diminish. He may realise that and be more forthcoming - after all, as a selfish person, he will crave the attention. Opting out is not a solution, we have a duty to exhaust all possible - even impossible - avenues before we entertain that notion, especially if there are children involved.

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