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You know when you make a normal human mistake (forgetting to put your name on a paper, wrong answer in class, etc) that everyone does but you just don't brush it off your shoulder like everyone else? I think about the mistake (which makes me depressed) and how I should avoid making it again. For some reason I can't accept that it's normal. It also makes me more antisocial then I already am (I have social Anxiety) and I believe it's the one thing holding me back from being a social person. The reason I don't want to leave my house is because I don't want to make mistakes in front of strangers. What should I do?
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lisalisa67 carlie57539
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just realize your rationale is off here as well. Anxiety alters rationale because it is a primitive instinct thing. Its really fight, flight, freeze or fawn. And you are stuck ruminating. You can break this but it will take a lot of oractice and committment and would be great to be done with a therapist on a weekly basis if possible.
jan34534 carlie57539
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Carlie, I think that speaking with a counselor who specializes in this could really help you! They see this every day and can help you figure it out. It really feels good to vent to someone who wants to help you manage and feel better!
The only way making mistakes wouldn't be normal, would be if we were not human.
If you suffer from anxiety, listening to meditations on you tube can really calm you down!! I like one called Clearing subconscious negatively. Many to choose from.
I use earbuds and lay down.
Guided Mindfulness is also great.
Seriously consider the counselor! 😁
edwina97301 carlie57539
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Sound just like me. At school thought I was just shy and wanted to be more popular so obsessed if I made mistakes always thought people would think I was weird . I constantly think about things and what t minght go wrong and like you if I mess something up I can't stop thinking about it. I want to put it right straight away and can't wait or I go mad waiting cos just can't get it out of my head. As I've got older now know it's OCD and this starts anxiety. Anxiety can be crippling but if you listen to people here it helps so much . Your not alone. So many people will relate to this . Tell doc you think it could be this .if he's any good he will have seen this loads and get you right treatment. Please don't feel too bad. It feels strange but very common and can get better. I have some bad times still but know it could be worse. Keep talking. ( sorry I could ramble on forever) let us know how you get on. ??
gary2906 carlie57539
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Hi Carlie,
Mistakes are what make us successful, the more mistakes you make the more successful you eventually become. As long as all your intentions are good.
Forgetfulness is not a mistake, I am the most forgetful person I know. I ALWAYS forgey my keys, in fact just writing this I've realised that I left my cap in a restaurant last night and will have to go and pick it up today (Do'h!), but at the same time I am also carefree, I dont really care about the cap, its just a cap, if I lose it so be it, but most likely be there later so all good.
Nobody will ever be perfect, actually, you should never think you are prefect because thinking you are pefect means you cannot improve or dont need to improve, everyone in the world can improve.
Mistakes dont matter, they are easily forgotten about, brushed under the carpet, left in the past, but successes, thats what lasts forever. You should not focus on how many times you lose, but how many times you win.
As for being social, next time you make a mistake write it down, wait a few days and write down all of the problems that happened because of that mistake, I dont mean your own feeling, I mean other people? Did anyone get hurt, did you make anyone feel bad, did you put someone down or make somebody elses life worse? Or is it all about yourself, your own emotions and your own feelings? If so, these mistakes you are making aren't going to hurt people, and if anything, the reason people love people who can laugh at themselves, is because these people also make other people feel human, feel like their own mistakes aren't so bad.
Its human to make mistakes, its super human to make success. So keep going, keep your head up and take small steps towards success, dont look at a mistake as a step backwards but a step closer. If you are forgetful like me, embrace it and laugh at it
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