I get shortterm severe bouts of anxiety, and the rest of the time im fine?
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Hi anybody who reads this.
Ive been trying to go online, in forums etc and look for understanding as to how the mind works. Im naturally a bit anxious and a person who experiences really strong emotions (both good and bad) I can feel both really happy and then utterly devastated, it doesnt have to be related to anything especial having happened, its like it comes from "within" me, and feelings are out of my control most times. I usually function really well and i have learned to live with myself, ups and downs. Have never been diagnosed with anything or medicated.
The thing is every other year or so, i get worse or more prolonged episodes of anxiety. I am in the middle of one of these things right now. It can start with something fairly minor, like having been stressed out a lot or dwelling on some problem or past events. And i get stuck. Anxiety has moved in 24-7. Its like i have awoken in a whole new world- a world that is nothing like it was yesterday. Its all dark and grim and filled with bad memories. I start to feel intense guilt over events long gone, doubts in myself and anxiety through most of the day bordering fullblown panic at times. I engage in negative thinking patterns, feel unable to experience postive emotions about things i normally do, feel like i am not loved and my boyfriend will leave me for being "crazy". I will go so far as to think i was never meant to be born. Irrational thoughts i know, but they feel so strong and real. I lose my apetite and my sleep suffers. I can go to sleep, but i awake in the wee hours of the morning, anxious and unable to go back to sleep. I dont recognize myself and i dont feel like "me". This in itself is very scary. Right now i have been feeling this way for about a week, nothing especial has happened that has been unexpected for me.
I did have similar bouts in the past, and did then seek out a medical attention several times, but i wasnt taken seriously. Eventually i got a small prescription for a benzodiazepine, which i took very carefully and only when needed. The last time i felt as bad as this, it lasted about a month and then it was like i one morning woke up and felt "normal" again. My true feelings came back and i could sleep and eat perfectly fine again, any more severe anxiety hasnt occured for a prolonged time until now (2 years later). I realize that this is a long post, and may be all to incoherent or uninteresting to read, but maybe someone does. Im just wondering how this can be so, that my anxiety lifts on its own like that? Does the mind finally just give up and cant go on in such a state? Many people on forums relating to anxiety seem to suffer for so long and not so to speak "naturally heal" (for the time being).
If nobody replies to this thats fine, it elt good to get off my chest though. I dont have a lot of people around me who "get" mental health issues and understand anxiety. They more or less consider me "too dramatic".
Hugs to all you people out there who help others using forums, ur great!
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simon45806 sam13693
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Don't feel like you are on your own or completely nuts because you aren't.
I can relate to just about every symptom you have mentioned in one way or another. I was diagnosed with anxiety back in February and have really been through the ringer so to speak. I am currently on pills for depression ( I don't particualr think im depressed) and anxiety.
When I'm at my worst I too seem to dwell on things that happened years ago. Its always the painful or frustrationg things that seem to crop up.
I get to the stage sometimes of absolutle panic and can feel physically sick. The main thing is to recognise that Anxiety is an illness but it can't kill you. At the time its happening theres nothing worse but you will get through it. Your partner should understand and learn to be patient. I live on my own and I can be my own worst enemy sometimes as it gives you a lot of time to think about it. I am learning now to recognise my triggers or symptoms and when I feel my self slipping I get up and do something.
If it helps you posting on the forum - do it. I feel better sometimes just by doing it as it does help just to get it of your chest. Any way - buck up kiddo. there is light at the end of the tunnel. Small steps and deep breaths.
Simon
sam13693 simon45806
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Sincerely thank you for your reply. Im always surprised to think that someone would actually take the time to write a reply to a complete stranger. Im most grateful. Its very comforting somehow to know that your not alone in experiencing this. For me anxiety can work in the way that it makes me feel lonely, despite being with people, like i am locked in my own mind.
You seem to have a good outlook on things, despite dealing with all of this. How are antidepressants working out for you? I hope you are managing well and have some good support around you.
Sam
simon45806 sam13693
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No problem at all. Its nice to chat with some one else thats going through it. My friends are great but with the exception of one (Suffers with severe anxiety) people don't seem to get it. It takes some one who has experienced anxiety to fully understand. The medication is helping. I will say the first few weeks were horrendous. They put you on anti depressants to help regulate your seretonin levels. I can safely say you have to stick with it and be prepared for an early rough ride. It was a bit like some one turning on a light switch with myself. I was up one minute and very down the next. The episodes now are getting further apart. My best since February was about 7 weeks. The further apart they go I do find that I may have a longer bout of anxiety. I am particularily bad on a morning but seem to calm down as the day goes on.
Ive been told i will be on them for several months so lets see how it goes.
Simon
joyce46400 sam13693
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Hi Sam.
No you are not mad....the mind is a very very strong tool and the more I read or try to understand it the little I know. I do believe that we lead very busy lives today and there are more worries. Even if you do not have thoughts that you feel bring your anxiety on that portion of the brain ,subconscious, can throw anything from the past to the forefront of the brain. Believe it or not I am again greiving for my late husbad who passed away approx 6 yrs ago but something has triggered this memeory and thrown it to the front of the brain for me to deal with again. I would just like an injection when this happens lol. Good luck Sam and remember you dealt with it once and can do so again.
simon45806 joyce46400
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Its strange isnt it. When I'm having a bad episode its the death of my father that always seems to be at the forefront. It wasn;t a pleasant passing.Its amazing what the brain can do to you.
Si
joyce46400 simon45806
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simon45806 joyce46400
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joyce46400 simon45806
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Hi Simon
Yes you have a good boss.... xx
sam13693 joyce46400
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joyce46400 sam13693
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Yes Sam it is...I am having hypnotherapy and counselling and after talking about my life I realise how turmoil it was, something I did not realise before. So be gentle with yourself and give your mind the time it needs to recover. x
justbeingme2 sam13693
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sam13693 justbeingme2
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Im feeling you, and its awful to hear you are suffering this. Like you wrote me, you are not alone. I think its nice to state this because anxiety can at least make me feel so very lonely. It may come off silly to say so given i do have friends, a fulltime job and a partner. Maybe it is so because anxiety is irrational. I worry often times that ill end up all alone. So many of us, all over the world and with different histories and backgrounds, we essentially feel the same thing. You have children, which i dont and that must be a lot harder than it is for me. Right now i am staying at my mothers house while on summerbreak from my university, i only have to tend to myself and i find that hard enough. You are strong! I hope you feel better real soon and get a doctors appointment. Let us know your progress if you feel like it. Wish you the best!
New85 sam13693
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sam13693 New85
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Well, the longest i have felt really bad in "one go" would be about 1 month. This includes impairment in my daily life with worrying to the point of not being able to think straight and problems with eating and sleeping. I know it may sound weird. The reason i decided to write on this forum yesterday was that i didnt quite know what else to do..I sort of got flashbacks to the time 2 years ago, when i had a really bad time. It coincidentally occured at about the exact same time as now too, in june. I wont say it happened out of the blue, it was related to a thing that had happened, but that was then heavily blown out of proportion and i ended up tugging it over and over in my mind to the point of severe anxiety and all it entails happening. I have a hard time letting the type of feeling go when i get it. I think too fast and hard and get let go, i try too hard to sort out all of the thoughts, and it feels impossible. However to my experience i havent had a "bout" lasting over a month to this point. I guess i should feel grateful about that, suffering acutely rather than chronically, i dont know. Thanks for writing anyways, its appreciated!
New85 sam13693
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sam13693 New85
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3 or 4 months sounds like a long time for you to suffer. I really feel for you!! Can you recognize anything that promotes you getting better? Does it gradually go away? Are you currently okay? U are also welcome to ask me anything if you think it will help : )
New85 sam13693
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sam13693 New85
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Im saddened to have to write all of this, and that anyone has to! I should be out there enjoying the time i have here. Realizing im wasting time feeling bad makes me feel even worse tho.. Maybe i just have to accept and think that it is NOT the end of the world, i might feel bad now but in the longrun so what? Would be great to be able to switch your mindset like that Im glad to hear you have found something thats working for you. And once again thanks for being a co-person in this world that aint always the easiest