I have a 15 yr old daughter with anxiety and social phobia.
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She only goes into school about 3 days a week due to her anxiety. She has a targeted youth support worker and she sees CAMHS once every 2 weeks. Nothing seems to be helping her. School are trying to help but it's not working.they are worried about her attendance more I think because it affects their overall attendance figures.i have asked them about flexi schooling but after 2 weeks they haven't replied to my letters and I have emailed them to remind them I haven't heard from them.everything looks bleak at the moment and it's starting to take its toll on me too .any advice from anyone please
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jmcg2014 fiona69779
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amy89817 fiona69779
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I hope you get this sorted soon!
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I think perhaps trying exposure therapy (part of CBT) may help in the long term. I.e of you were scared of going to the shop, they would say drive half way, then come home, then the next time, drive to the shop, but do not get out of the car. And this builds you up to getting to the shop.
What helped me with my anxiety at school was going to my local library. I was very anxious still obviously, but I would go every day, but when I felt most relaxed to do some school work. At least your daughter would be going out to study, but in a less regimented way than school. No start time, end time, a lot less people there, quieter, able to leave when feeling overwhelmed etc.. I know it seems very daunting and a round about way, but it might build her up to staying at the library slightly longer, and maybe eventually going to school a bit more.
Are her friends able to visit her at home? I became quite isolated at the time, but having a friend visit me helped me with my social interactions and anxiety. You seem a lot more understanding than my parents though!
You can get 'books on prescription' a new scheme at libraries that are generally self help books that talk you through certain therapies and other techniques, and give you work sheets to fill out, showing your progress. I found that CBT was useful but I had a hard time getting there as I was too scared to leave the house! Filling out the worksheets with my progress and activities everyday was quite satisfying- documenting it made me feel like I had achieved something and I was making progress! If you google www.ntw.nhs.uk/pic (or look on the nhs website) you'll get a guide giving you info on panic attacks, coping techniques, and work sheets where you can list your symptoms, feelings, and a structured plan to help with anxiety though CBT/exposure therapy.
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School boards need to adapt to the needs of kids like your daughter so that she reaches her full potential. They are required to establish a 'care plan'. to best meet her requirements so that she receives an education...taking her special needs into consideration. http://www.nhs.uk/CarersDirect/guide/assessments/Pages/Careplansforchildren.aspx
I hope this helps. And I wish your daughter the best. Make sure she studies every day when she is home. Staying home from school doesn't mean watching TV or playing and chatting on the computer. If she were my child there would be no TV during the day and definitely no computer unless it was for doing math exercises. She would be at the gym, in the pool, going for walks every morning etc..physicall activity on a daily basis being a huge stress buster. And I would take her to the library to choose books that she must read. (or no TV in the evening) I would give her nutritious foods only...banishing junk from the house altogether. 6 - 10 servings of fruit and veggies per day. If she cannot be at school, basically i would turn home into school. There would be no slacking off at home. She can do housework as well and learn how to make meals. She needs an education and even if you are having her learn about Shakespeare's life or do grammar exercises on line, she should be learning. All this taking her condition into consideration. Be careful about manipulation...she is a teenager after all...
Is she on meds to help with the social anxiety? Does she go to a clinic that helps her learn strategies for coping with S.A.?
Good luck, Fiona!
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joan152 fiona69779
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Sorry to hear of your daughter it must be hard,I am sure you are doing the best you can and every mother brings their child up as best she can and not what others do,Just one thought if you are not getting the support from the school have you tried to talk to the school go enters or even an MP don't know if you are in the U.K for MPs and while diet is essential it's not the case here that will do nothing you need physical help and support
Do hope you have some success.
Keep us informed on here
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fiona69779 joan152
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It does feel like I'm banging my head against a brick wall sometimes. I swear the school think I should drag her to school.but at 15 that's impossible and completely the wrong way of dealing with a child with these problems.
thank you for your support.
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I am here if ever you want to off load ?
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robin77577 fiona69779
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I suggest she take magnesium supplements. Read up on it and have her read up on it as well. And check my recent post: https://patient.info/forums/discuss/magnesium-deficiency-cause-of-depression-anxiety-s-a--258921 Good luck!
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