I have this anxiety problem since 7 years, how to get out of it?

Thank you so much it means a lot to me, I was waiting desperately for any reply but only you did thanks, I will start working on my diet, meditation, the way I think and to stay calm, I have to accept this now that this is a mental illness regardless of its causes and cure is in my hand, anxiety is not weakness. Although anxiety has ruined my career and my day to day life but what has been done is past now I have to work on present. Right now I'm on SNRI with combination of Alprazolam ... But I will try to get rid of medication and switch to meditation, yoga, clean diet, excessive water intake, and positive thinking. .... But one more question as you said our brain is strong does that mean in all those years I had anxiety my brain was not damaged or altered?

Anxiety wouldn't have damaged or altered your brain at all.. it's a resilient thing..

You, your synapses have form a pathway between anxiety to fear pattern of behavior. That is the pathway you need to weaken by retraining your brain, your brain itself is fine. 

Thanks, that means I have to just train myself to fight this anxiety? But I have tried a lot even medication SSRI, alprazolam but didn't manage to get out of it. There are certain timings when I feel very anxious without any triggering force, may be it's because I'm married and unemployed can't face hurdles in life and short tempted but when all this was started I was student n single enjoying my life I got sufficient finance at that time, I just married because people told me marriage will solve ur anxiety problem so I did and now father of three cute kids but now its difficult to handle financial matters and can't do job because of this anxiety and panic attacks even being skilled and talented what to do?

Thanks, that gives sigh of relief that question had diaturbed me for many years .

Learn to accept life as it is and not how you think it should be, Acceptance will relieve "what if" thinking. Acceptance will calm down the fears of tommorrow. Not as hard as one thinks to do. The trick is to live in the moment. Do what is needed to be done in the present moment and it will take care of the future. No matter how many pills you consume if your thinking is of despair and negative thought you wont achieve the peace you are hoping for...acceptance does not mean you like the situation. Or a person, or a trauma that has occured. It means you accept what is. Mindfullness techniques and cbt  are very useful on slowly learning to live in the moment. Many people feel life is suppose to be filled with joy and happiness all the time, it isnt. It is a learning experience. It is up to you to find gratitude in your world, even the smallest thing. The body can not feel  two strong emotions at the same time. Maybe one day science will find out the core of this issue and help the 18% of the population who endure anxiety and panic attacks. Until then you must teach yourself how to manually calm your mind down. Acceptance is a key to this. The mind is very strong and fear is a potent bully. Pills would be short term. The body adjusts to them over time and they stop working which is why some take high doses or many at a time. Science has not found a universal cause or cure to aid the mind to easily retrain or rewire it self. I wonder myself if its a parasite or a virus that altered how the minds rationale functions, and if it is some day they will figure it out as they did with syphillis a long  time ago and as they did with ulcers..both were initally blamed on stress or mental illness and now both are curable and noted to be a bacteria caused ailment.. Just an example of science. Panic attacks and anxiety are emotionally based dysfunctions. Your body has made the fear connections and the patterns are well formed. Fear is an extremly potent emotion as it plays into ones survival and instincts so once that connection is formed it is very strong. on another note you noted you married as you were told this is the answer. Apparently you had issues before you married so feeling that was the cause is incorrect according to the story you wrote above. Maybe they felt it would bring you happiness and security of love would lower your anxiety. That makes sense.unfortunately it didnt work and now you have the worries of caring for them now. Understood how you feel.  So now start over in your mind. Learn acceptance, love yourself as is, forgive yourself of any errors or mis guidance.learn mindfullness techniques and cbt and proper care of your body. Eat foods with nutrition and that are wholesome and drink lots of fresh water and exercise. Meditate. Many guided mediations are on the net. Only live in the moment and this should slowly retrain your mind and behaviors. Be patient. Remember unless science comes up with a scientific based explanation and cure, and they havent yet there is no actual happy pill or instant gratification cure. Good luck and may you find peace and security within yourself.

Thanks a lot Lisa, I got your point, that I should accept that what ever has happened with me is not abnormal or uncoomon (rare), it is a just like another disease which is still not fully understood, researched or found its cure, I have to accept and live with this anxiety and if I wanna calm down myself or the wanna live my life without letting this anxiety disturbing my day to day life is mindfulness techniques, CBT, diet, meditation, yoga and lot other ways like living in the moment not worrying about the future being positive. But at still I can't find answer to my questions that what happend at that particular night When all this started what was the triggering point and what factors lead this anxiety towards me, and why can't I find peace even after understanding and accepting all that you said when ever I feel good and better I know this is temporary and after some time at random time, random place with random people I become anxious and feel physicaly uncomfortable, so I become curious what is this what should I do and I have lot of responsibilities to take care my mother, sisiters, wife, kids and my career can't see progress in that all that combinely makes me stressful well after all that I'm very optimistic when I feel out of anxiety and I feel good when I come to know that long term anxiety doesn't damage or alter the brain and you can still live healthy and good life.

My childhood has been good but full of fears like I fear ghosts, clouds, thunder sound, height, swimming, fighting, my fathers shouting and death but mynchildhood went good after all that fears and I have this anxiety innnheritance like my mother has anxiety problem but my father doesn't , my paternal and maternal grandfather and grandmother were not so much in anxiety orndepressed as I have heard about them so I can't find the reason for for this disease. I have visited lot of physicians and psychiatrists in town but no one diagnosed my problem in even gone deep in paranormal activities side but found nothing then n the end I surrendered myself in front of science.