I just found out I have herpies

You're not alone. I'm 28 yrs old now. I found out I had it about 3 years ago. It killed me just like you're saying. But you can't look at it like you're a s****y person. S**t happens and you gotta look past it. It doesn't make you any different of a person. Herpes can stay low key for a long time so it's very hard to tell where it came from. I hardly get breakouts but when I do it's pretty mild sometimes. There's a cream you can get from your doctor to help this. And your other question about if you know when you're about to have a breakout. It's kinda hard to tell. There's no warning. I'm honestly surprised doctors can come up with all this medication for anything in the world but there's no cure for this? I hate the government but that's a whole other story. If you need someone to talk too I'll be here.

Anyone can get herpes. Faithful or not. Multiple partners or not. The statistic is like 1 in 6 people have it and most don't even know. They say it's not a big deal but it has a really bad sigma unfortunately. Taking vitimans (I have heard) work well to help with the symptoms. Like L-lysine and vitamin d and b12 helps I believe I read. Eating healthy and getting enough sleep. Not stressing yourself. 

Did the doctor just look at it and say you have herpes, or did a swab test prove that you have it? Because if the former, mistakes can be made and I would never accept such a diagnosis without a reliable test to back it up.