I just found out last week & 8 have been depressed & on top of that I don't know who gave it to me

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I just found out last week that I have it & I don't know how long I have had it. I have never had a painful feeling down there at all.i found out From doing my regular pep getting tested for everything. & this is a new doctor that I started seeing last year, so I don't know if I have ever been tested before. I am so embarrassed nobody knows, I can't seem to want to tell anybody not even the person I think I got it from. I have lost weight since I found out. I am getting depressed & I stress all day, can't eat, can't sleep.. when will I get back to myself?

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    Hey, you must be careful stress can cause out break. I know the feeling I just found out yesterday. I came home and took it out on my spouse.. We thought a theses on would spice things up... Well that was over a year ago. And I am just now getting it...Dr. Said, you need to have a conversation with your spouse. So it started of course with deniel...I don't even want him in the same bed with me..it makes me nauseated beyond belief...

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      Yes, I am totally in denial.... I just broke up with my man because of he cheated on me so I cheated on him & that is the reason I got tested for everything when I went to the doctor....So hopefully I will be up to talking to him soon but I just cant get the nerve up to call him

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      CALL YOUR DOCTOR, if not for anything else it will give you peace of mind
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    Sorry to hear about that. However, it really is not as bad as you are thinking. I know it might not feel that way. 

    Remember, you are not the only one in this situation. In fact, about 20% of people have genital herpes. And thats just what we know. 85% of people dont even know they have it. The fact that you haven't had any symptoms seems like a good thing, as your odds of transmitting it are much lower. I know it seems like the end of the world, but trust me it is not. Things could be WAYYY worse. 

    This news definitely sucks to hear... but time heals ALL wounds. 

    The worst thing about herpes is just the stigma around it. You are not dying, not even suffering from an outbreak for that matter. The only way you have been affected so far is just by KNOWING you have it. 

    Have safe sex, take medication if you want, and tell a desired partner before its too late. Besides that, keep enjoying life!

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      I have got a book about it so I can read up on it but you are so true I could be a lot worse!! Time does heals things so hopefully as time goes on, I will get back to myself. But as of last week it seem like my world have ended. But I am going start medication

      Thank you, you really help ease my mind

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      Amen

      Thank you for the words i needed to hear!!!

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    Will give you the same advice my doctor gave me

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    You are spending way too much time on this. HSV-2 is a skin irritation. ...

    Remember that and that you're only hurting yourself by not letting it rest ? Too know that stress will do a lot to your body and i really believe that by focusing my attention on only that made me insane.

    Research the virus yourself and its effects but know that ALL of our bodies are completely different and we will all react differently to a virus that does different things to bodies each time.

    Stay positive & we'll informed ~

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      I am spending too much time thinking about it....I finally got out the house last night & ate a meal that I have not ate in a week, for the first time it was off my mind. Thanks you

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    How were you diagnosed? False positives can occur with some tests and not all doctors know this, etc. Find out the type of test and your results (need the numbers) before worrying about this.
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      Do you know what the number mean? I think it was thru a blood test. i go back to the doctor next week & I will be sure to ask?

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      My doctor did a scraping of the blisters to get a swab for testing. When I really saw it I started to panic. My told body was in another world..... I became nauseated beyond belief. I am still trying to come to grips with this....is it possible it will destroy my marriage.
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      Best to ask for a copy of your lab report. The numbers indicate your antibody levels. Above a certain number, it's said to be positive.

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      My body still feel like its in another world so I definitely know the feeling. Being that I just found out last week.but coming from a recently single person,I hope it don't destroy your marriage. I wish I already had a husband than I think my news would not have been as bad. Because I hate the fact that I have to tell every future partner/mate

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      Another question if the numbers are high do that mean you had it for a long time?
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      FelisCactus please let us know if you know anything about this. My doctor told me there wasn't a scale per say and there was No Way to see how long the virus has been in me???

      Feedback would be Great ???

      ???it's like a diamond in the rough???

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      My doctor said anything above a 1.5 on the serum test, that i had, showed you were positive. Fourteen was my number but she said there was no scale

      What's the word on the block?

      Or should i say What do you suggest?

      Trying to make sense of all this new information ...

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      This reply is to both Lauren and Dora.

      The IgG test result number is a rough indicator of your IgG antibody level. Unfortunately, the number can only be used to indicate whether a person is positive, negative or equivocal. A high number, like 14, is a strong and conclusive positive, but it doesn't tell you much else, since people produce and maintain different levels of IgG antibody following full production (usually reached at 3-4 months after infection).

      The only time IgG can be used to determine recency of infection is within the first month, possibly 2 months, of infection, so it's usage in that regard is pretty limited. A brand new infection, as confirmed by a first outbreak that swab tests positive, which is also IgG negative is a new infection (detectable antibodies yet to be produced). A rising IgG during the first few weeks of infection is also indicative of a new infection. That's why I encourage people to test for IgG asap after a first outbreak, especially where they want to know if it's new or a long-time latent infection.

      Hope that helps!

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      If you have had it for a while and know your type, then there is no real need to swab, unless you have persistent or strange symptoms not typical of herpes that you want to check out.
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      Yes that helped

      Since I just found out I had it last week & I had sex with this guy in August do that mean I gave him herpes because I was not on any medication

      Meaning when not on the medicine does the 4% apply

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      First of all, you may not have herpes. Depends on the type of test done and how you scored. If your positive is based on the IgM test, for example, I would not count that. Secondly, herpes doesn't pass with each and every sexual encounter, so even if you have it, your partner in August may mot have caught anything.

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