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I’m physically disabled and don’t know how to tell this to my girlfriend abroad who wants to meet up

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seekingyou10
seekingyou10

I’m physically disabled and don’t know how to tell this to my girlfriend abroad who wants to meet up. I need some help!!!

I’m way past my prime and having a hard time in finding someone. The main problem is not because I’m some sort of awkward introvert but more of the fact that I am disabled.

Because of this, I can’t seem to find someone who would want to stay with me. Finding romance in person has obviously failed me so I’ve tried different ways to find a girl, including online dating. This is where I found a woman who I can actually say might be the one from a dating site called loveme.

We’ve been talking for about a couple of months now and she’s been telling me that she wants to meet. She’s from Ukraine and I’m from Washington. She’s planning on coming here to the United States for a vacation, and really wants to see me.

I haven’t really told her about my disability because I could never find the way to open it up. I really like this woman, and I’m not the kind of guy who can easily attract someone. I’m honestly afraid at the thought of losing her, and my disability might be the reason.

She’s going to book a plane ticket soon and I’m torn. It’ll be a waste of time and money, but seeing her in person would mean the world to me. I just don’t know how to bring this up with her because I don’t want to hassle her life with having me around.

Every day I grow fonder of my girlfriend, and would do anything for her but just imagining her reaction is starting to scare me more every day. I really need some help with how to open this up with her and how I can deal with things if she ever rejects me. HELP!!!

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  • Sway
    Sway seekingyou10

    Posted

    All you can do is be honest. If she.loves you your disability will not.matter. im not physically disable but i have multiple personality disorder and i habe 3 other personalities. I told my then boyfriend and now were married and been together 11 years. I know its a little different but your disability should not matter if she cant love you the way you are then shes not the right one for you. Love is unconditional.
  • brown45840
    brown45840 seekingyou10

    Posted

    Hi there,

    You need to be honest. She will respect you more if you are honest. Good luck to you!

  • bambarbia
    bambarbia seekingyou10

    Posted

    Hi, I am sure that your friend will be glad to visit you in any case. Especially if she is from Eastern Europe. Tell her right now about your problems and you will see 
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