I'm really anxious and emotional, I feel tired and wake up every night about 3 or 4 in the morning.

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I have zero sex drive and just feel almost invisible and unattractive, I used to be confident and outgoing but now I feel insecure. I sometimes feel like just running away and living alone even though I can't afford to. One minute I can feel emotional the next almost emotionless and empty. I love my job but feel useless most of the time.

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    Hi there you have just explained me and how i feel! So sorry you are also feeling this way. I've been going thru this for 3 years now. Sex is so painful with my bf now, I'm thinking of hrt but really undecided. Do you take anything? Goodness what us women have to go through! Xx

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    I also wake up at that time. I go back to bed but can never sleep in late. I'm just getting better, had a bad half year. I highly recommend first seeing your Dr. Mine gave me a very low dose of Xanax xr .5 once a day. It helps. I went to a psychologist for a few sessions if CBT and mindfulness, which helped also. Now u am doing a few sessions with a neurological acupuncturist who also does bach flowers. After one session, the entire day was like the old me. Then it receded a bit but I hope after a few sessions I will be 100%. I'm much better than I was. You have to do something. Exercise and water also...

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    hi im 48 and feeling the same way as you are iv been going through this for several years now i have no sex drive losing my hair my looks and tierd all the time puting weight on on my tummy losing it everywere else i hardly eat a thing and feel tierd all the time i want to have sex but the symptoms put me off like dryness which i try to treat with replens i get sore and burn then i have lost sensations i. take ages to have an orgasm and whn i do its gone just as it begins plus its less intence. i dont get any plesure from sex at all now. when i last went to see my dr  she told me i could not have hrt because i had high blood presure and colesterol which i was suprised about as i do t drink or smoke im active and i dont eat much and dont eat meats. im a wreck. 

    i need to find somethi g to help me as i hate feeling like this. im taking macca soy vitamin bs and ds and sea kelp nothi gs working for me i get bad headachs and my body bleeds when it feels like it sometimes every other day its only light but its still there and then im sore and dry so cant use tampax or pads it makes me feel worse but then il have to and its just gosh i could go on and on meno is truely horrible.

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      So sorry to hear this you really are going through it aren't you sad I haven't had the dryness just no interest in any intimacy at allsad have you tried taking black co-hosh I find it helps with some symptoms!?

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      Hi, Can I just say hair loss, stomach issues - please use macca with care, also soya..(not sure about issues with soya and thyroid)..could be that you need to cut back on things...I know because I was taking a few things and honestly they did not help....other's have recommended dietary changes, i.e. less sugar, etc, I think this may help you...may well be that the soya is not helping your thyroid..hence you're feeling worse...

      ?Could you try cutting out these things just to see...

      I do feel for you, my hair loss has bee significant. Another story... be wary of maca, soya and certain type of vitamins...take care

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    Hi Tracey - this is so part off having to go through peri. It is like being scared and tired at the same time, fear of failure but no urge to be productive, wanting your friends around but hate socialising, wanting to be alone but not lonely, caring about your family and then caring about nothing, not even yourself and when feeling all of these feelings at once, then feeling paralysingly numb unable to bring yourself to focus and continue. 

    Hang in there Tracey - this is just a phase and all of us here will help you to stay positive and accept these crazy - but normal symptoms you are experiencing.

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    Tracy, there isn't a woman out here who doesn't feel the way you do.  These hormonal changes effect everything.  I can relate to every post here.  It's amazing how life changes, and so do we.  I'd be just fine, if someone could tell me how to be my old perky self again.  I miss having a sex drive, but the dryness and pain take their tole!!!   And I'm sick of the "experts" who write that it's about being patient and taking it slow.  (I don't care how slow it is, if it hurts you don't want it.)   I used to feel pretty all the time, now I never do.  I find myself almost wanting to hide from people.  

    And that emotional junk is sometimes the worst.  It seems nothing interests me.  I remember years ago thinking that when the kids were gone I'd have so much time to get all my projects in.  Now I simply don't care anymore.  

    I just wanted to jump in and tell you that you are not alone.  Menopause absolutely stinks.  

     

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