I’m worried about my partner and our relationship, please help
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Hello I need some help please, forgive me if this is long but I’m so lost I have no idea what to do. My partner or 7 years broke up with me 4 weeks ago out of nowhere. He left me with our 3yo son and I have heard hardly anything from him since. The whole situation was so left field, I didn’t see it coming. He broke up with me 2 days after I buried my grandfather so this has seriously knocked me into one of the lowest depressions I’ve ever been in. I have been to the doctor and I’m getting myself sorted but it’s him I’ve come to ask about. This behaviour is so unlike him, walking away without fixing things and not talking to me or any of our friends. He’s shutting himself away and I don’t know what to do. I’m so worried about him isolating himself. He won’t open up even tho he said that he went to see a professional I’m terrified that he really doesn’t love me anymore. Can it be the depression? Is it him trying to push me away? I’m so scared I really need help please
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gilip tara96740
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Hi there I am so sorry what happened to you. So hard to have a child and a relationship and just see the partner walk away. And also just after losing you grandfather no wonder it has knocked you sideways. Please don’t think it was your fault maybe he had a midlife crisis early or maybe he is depressed and will return when he goes on meds or has therapy . Try and hang in there I am so happy you have a little son. Saying a little pray for you Tara x x x
tara96740 gilip
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borderriever tara96740
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This is very difficult to advise on. You mention your Grandfather I was wondering if your Partner has the seven year itch and home life is proving to be to stressful and He has moved on to a different relationship. You need to talk to your Partner, it may take time before this may be possible.
Could you contact His Mother or Father and find out what has happened. Does he have any Siblings you could talk to. However I understand from above He has approached a Health Professional, you will need to discuss his health concerns in some fashion possibly this may be a waiting game and this is not really fair on you and your Child.
Does your GP treat your Partner, if so could you discuss your concerns and fears with Him and see what the basic problem is
We do not know how old you and your partner are?. Do you think it may be He has been unable to cope with your loss, or He feels overwhelmed with His life with you and child.
Whatever you do, you have begun to attend to your Anxiety and confusion. Your child at three years old will also be a little concerned where is Dad is ?
BOB
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shaunalynn tara96740
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Dear tara96740 im so sorry about your grandfather. Losing a loved one is so painful and grief effects everyone different. There is different stages of grief too. I know this from recent experience. My mom died unexpectly last april 2017 and 2 months later my best friends mom died. who i was very close with too. My best friend is in conseling right now trying to work thru this. She says if she didnt have me wasnt in counseling she wouldn't even still be here . So your going thru a lot right now. Dealing with the pain and emotion of your grandpa dying and your partner leaving and top of that being solely responsible for taking care of your little boy. That's a lot. First I would count my blessings that you and your little boy are safe and you have each other. Then I would try getting a hold of his family and make sure hes ok. Maybe he will go to marriage or family counseling with you. And he doesnt i would go anyway. At least that gives you an adult to talk to about all your feeling right now and help you process everything your going thru. I feel for you. Just keep your head up and keep pushing foward. Your little boy loves you unconditionally no matter what. And so does God. Things will get better but it takes time.
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