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I need advice On how to tell my ex bf that i have Hsv

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jazmin95438
jazmin95438

Hello, I as diagnosed last yeah March i will be 1 year now.. at that time i had broke up with my long term bf we were together since i was 15 i am now 23 we had a few break ups, before that and ended getting back together .i dated other people and im sure he did too ...the  Point is i  was diagnosed with it and i never told him anout it hes back in my life trying to work things out and get back with me and i keep pushing him away because i am terrified of telling him the situation .. when we were together we had some trust issues.. altough he could have been the one who gave it to me idk,, im scared to death to tell him .. im scred of his reaction idk what it would be.. im scared he would think automatically i got it because i was out there sleeping around which was not the case but i did date somoe else.

 i need advice if someone has any opinion or adive i would appreciate it . He keeps doing nie things like sendiing flowers etc and i feel horrible because i know i have what i have ... 

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  • Guest
    Guest jazmin95438

    Posted

    You need to tell him and if he flips out or does not accept it you really shouldn't be him anyway! I wish my boyfriend would oftold me..my immune system is almost completely out of wack my body just really is not handling well! I wish he would of told me because we could of used extra precaution and beyond that I just feel. betrayed we are both adults not only do. I have to deal with the repercussions of the virus but now trust issues anger and complete sadness because he wasn't upfront and honest! I think he was afraid just as you are but this hurts way more then knowing and taking that risk with open honesty! Tell him you will feel relieved too!
    • jazmin95438
      jazmin95438 Guest

      Posted

      Im sorry to hear that honey.. yes i know its super hard.. and i hate this virus as well everyday !!!! Are you and your bf still togethr ? I want to tell him because i feel horrible but idk how to start it off? im scared of his reaction .. i think hes going to never want to talk to me again .. and i would take that except that idk how to have the talk .. plus theres a big chance he was the one that gave it to me... but i just think hes going to say i got it because i was out there dating other people sad its so hard
    • Guest
      Guest jazmin95438

      Posted

      If he really cares for u he shouldn't react that way regardless if he gave it to you or not! Its just a really annoying health condition that needs to be handled with care..i mean its not something that somebody should shame u for

      Because you are still u...just as much beauty and worth as before..you just have a virus. I would respect anyone who tells me the truth! Yes my bf and I are still together but we aren't in the best place eight

    • Guest
      Guest

      Posted

      Right* now but I know we love each other eventually we will probably work through it but to be honest I'm worried about getting better right now...if him and I are ment to be we will be. But I can only imagine how you feel nothing about herpes is awesome lets be real! Its a very emotional subject not easy to deal with..remember if he really loves you he will support you regardless u deserve nothing less!
  • jazmin95438
    jazmin95438

    Posted

    Thanks HUn .. i guess we will see if he really loves me like he says he does when i tell him huh.. Guess this would prove that 
  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus jazmin95438

    Posted

    If you have genital Type 1, it's not such an issue, as it rarely recurs/sheds, isn't overly infectious, is easily caught from oral sex, is the same exact virus that causes cold sores (which is not classified as an STD) but less contagious, and most people already have it orally. You could always say you have the cold sore virus without specifying where, like one other person on this forum is considering.

    Given that genital Type 1 is less infectious than oral Type 1, I don't see the harm in that. Just avoid sex if you feel an outbreak coming on and use condoms to be extra safe.

    If you have genital Type 2, then that is different, and you can say exactly what you said in your original post, that you're scared but believe in honesty, and it could well have come from him (or not), that he should consider getting tested, and there are ways to reduce transmission if he is still prepared to take it further with you.

    Good luck!

  • jenny37667
    jenny37667 jazmin95438

    Posted

    If he cares about you . And he really knows you well. Then you can tell him the truth. Don't hide it from him. If he is trying to get back at with you. He is not understanding. Then don't tell him . And move on with your life.
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