I need cheering up

I'm 20 so I'm around your age.

I know it must be hard losing someone who was so important to you, however I like to believe that everything happens for a reason. I also got dumped by a boyfriend when I was in the middle of a range of mental health issues that I am still facing. He dumped me by text saying he wanted someone who was always happy. I, like you, was really upset but later realised it was for the better as I was able to focus on getting myself well and taking the right steps towards my recovery. I also realised that he wasn't supportive and was making me worse. You experience may be slightly different but hopefully you can take some of what I've said and apply it. Try to use this opportunity to focus on recovery and just focus on yourself, later down the line you might think that this was a helpful experience in your recovery. 

Again I'm really sorry and I wish you all the best xx

My first husband left me when I was ill, and left me devastated.  He was the only person who knew I was ill.  I struggled on and eventually met someone else, we married, and 27 years later we have 2 children, house, holidays ..... the usual.  Throughout this time my new partner/husband supported me, and with the help of SSRI's I recovered from depression and have been well ever since.

If your partner truly loved you, then they'd stick by you, no matter what.  As painful as it is, then sadly he wasn't the one for you.  You're very young, have a lifetime of new romances, friendships etc ahead of you just waiting to be discovered.  It's difficult suffering with this illness, but as Pippa said, use this opportunity to focus on yourself.

My breakup was the best thing that happened to me.

K xx

You may at first come across as the whiney teenager, but what you describe is most likely the most significant thing you have ever experienced in your life so far, so make no apologies for opening up.

I urge you to talk to anyone and everyone that you can to get you through this bad time.

A lot of us on this forum seem to have had similar experiences or even triggers and are in a similar place. Dont ever think you are alone, there are more of us out there every day...we are just at different stages and looking at different things to get us where we need to be.

Im on day 22 ish, not much change yet - i dont think, then again, im crying less...so...yay! Lets just keep it going and see....best of luck to you and all others!

Love never gets easier but I believe like the others that everything happens for a reason and this is just a step in finding the one for you but its devastating at the time.

Hope the fluoxetine brings you to a brighter place in time. Its taken me nearly 16 wks (8ks on diff ssri before that) to get to a place where I feel like myself again, almost stopped believing I would.

Hope cbt helped. It will ease in time.

All the best

Vix

my daughter is 19 and suffering, i joined this forum so i could understand and help her. bless you, i want to give you a cuddle, my daughter has been going out with her boyfriend for 3 years, and she was convinced she didnt want to carry on seeing him, she really was very down and unhappy when she was with him too. it almost came to them splitting up, it was the illness causing her thourghts, and as much as i tried to explain it to him, it was very hard for him to understand. it still is,

take this time now to concentrate on yourself, i know it hurts so much emotionally right now, but i watched my daughter trying to get better, then having a setback, due to her boyfriend having a bad day/ causing an argument/ an odd comment, he was carrying on as normal, when "normal" didnt exist anymore in my daughters mind. it all just added to her unstable emotions.

your not a winey teenager, depression doesnt look at age, you are someone who needs help & support, and has a journey of a different kind to take now, be kind to yourself sweetheart. x