I need help to stop thinking about bad things

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I always had problems with anxiety specially with social anxiety. All those fears were cleared away when I meter the most wonderful person ever, my girlfriend. In the year that we have been dating, it has been the best time of my life, I have literally never been happier. It has been amazing. But a month ago, college started for me, a major change in my life in every way, and in one of the first days I felt really tired and she was hanging out with me at my place and for the first time in a year I had the feeling of "I dont want to have her here right now". I instantly panicked about it and for the longest time I thought that it meant that I was starting to love her less and was terrified of it. But I realised recently that that wasn't my problem because whenever I was with her I still felt the same joy and sweetness I had always felt. So let's get to the point.. I realised that my problem is that college has triggered my anxiety back again, because now whenever I think about something I can't let it go, if a negative thought or idea comes to my mind then it never leaves and its all I think about. And trust me guys its been killing me, I cry almost everyday, I dread the thought of coming to college day after day and most importantly I can't let go of bad thoughts. I can't function properly anymore, I'm functioning based on how much I'm thinking about bad things. I found that the only situation where I do nothing but think about those things is when I'm in college. I really need help, I'm even thinking of giving up college to see if this stops because I don't know what else to do.. I'm constantly on the verge of a breakdown.. The only way all this goes away is when I am with my girlfriend, and luckily we live pretty close so we can be together everyday but mostly just at the end of the day because during the Day I'm in college and she's working so I have to find another way to make it go away, preferibly for ever. I typed this in college sitting alone at the table, almost breaking down.. Please give me advice I feel like a prisioner of my own mind..

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    Hi Philip I really want to help u but I don't really know what to to. Say except my problem I get anity

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    I need to exact same advice as u phil I have social anxiety but I have to work everyday at my boyfriends restaurant and normally I have anxiety on and off but lately I can't stop thinking about having to be at work everyday is making me sick to the point I'm getting stomach pains and crying and feeling like I'm holding my breath at time and my muscles clench it's so hard at times 🙃🙃😔

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    Phillip and Deanie, Sorry, you guys are feeling this way. It might help if you can try to focus on just getting through one day at work/ college instead of thinking long term but maybe ask yourselves if want you are doing actually excites you enough. Bear in mind you will not be feeling like this forever, with treatment (either medication / counselling / both) you will be able to improve your feelings. May I suggest the 'moodjuice' website, there are workbook type modules on a variety of issues related to life skills, healthy living (including social anxiety), relationsips, feelings and behaviours, and finding meaning.

    Wishing you both well

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    Sorry your mind seems so cluttered.

    You need to ask yourself a couple of questions, do you feel you are on the proper course for you, or do you feel you need a different challenge in your Life

    Do you feel you would be better in full time employement, 

    Could it be with being so happy with your Partner you wish to be with her all hours of the day.

    To need free time from a partner is not strange espcially when you need to study or other activities.

    Do you, sad to say feeling you are growing away from this person as your needs and activities are asking more of you at College.

    When I went to College I was engaged, she was really bright and I was a shadow of her inttelegence three years later at twenty one My Parents broke up my relationship because they blaimed her for my crashing out, She was part uk and was on a College visa from a different country, this caused me problems. The relationship had broken down and we were going through the motions before the breakup do you feel this is happening here ??


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