I relapsed with my self harming. :(
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Hey I'm 21 going on 22.
I started self harming and having anxiety when I was a child I am still unsure why but I was very mixed up and confused at that age.
The self harming got really bad when I was a teenager. I didn't go into school.
Theripists just said I can't handle stress there was nothing mentally wrong with me which I do disagree with as I am still struggling today but I am learning to cope a bit better.
I stopped last year when I got into my new relationship as he told me he would be very upset if I did it again so I stopped.
As a child I grew up chubby and then as a teen I was very overweight.
One day I managed to loose about 50lbs and I did see the difference but still had a belly. When i got in my relationship I gained about 20lbs which has really upset me and I am now struggling to loose it. I hate my belly and the way I look I sometimes don't want to leave the house I bought a thing on groupon for laser liposiys (dunno if its spelt right) and I told my manager at work and she went "Oh you should'nt be doing that your going to give yourself mental problems when ur older" I just felt like saying "Already there!!" I don't think I'm depressed though I honestly don't know but I'm just feeling so drained over nothing. I get up about half 5 every morning in tears dreading to get out my bed to work.
Tonight I was helping out my mum at her tap dancing class and I was helping a woman with a routine and she wanted to record me so she could practise at home and when she was showing me it my belly was HUGE! i looked pregnant and instantly put me on a downer I messured my belly and it is too big to be considered healthy even though my BMI is apprently healthy. I know its really bad to be upset over and hurt your self over but I genually see myself as big as I was when I was 30lbs heavier I no longer see the slim body I acheived when I lost weight I just had to do it tonight but I did it in a way it looked like my cat's scratched me (the old excuse in the book) I am dreading work tomorrow I have so many aches and pains that a 21 year old shouldn't have I feel so guilty too coz I do know people have real problems and mine are just petty and attention seeking but I can't help it it's ruining my life I just wish I could accept the way I am but I can't it's not good enough and I never will be.
Any advice on what to do?
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hypercat Weecara
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I bet Kim Kardasian and JoLo were always told their bums were too big but they didn't let it hold them back so don't you please. Not one of us is perfect and shouldn't try to be coz perfection is very boring and you will find people love you for your personality and quirkiness not because you are thin, Honestly this is true you know. I am not making light of your worries but I think most of have been where you are now. Don't feel guilty please. Your worries deserve to be heard as much as anyone elses.
I think you might be suffering from depression. Google online depression and take the questionnaire. Maybe a visit to the doctors might help. Take care x
Weecara hypercat
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hypercat Weecara
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Too many people spend their precious lives agonising over their weight or their looks instead of living and enjoying their life. We are only here for a short time so what a waste of life this is.
Unless you have health problems I wouldn't worry at your age of 21 about stokes and heart attacks etc. This isn't realistic. It sounds like you are an 'apple' shape like me. Around 20% of woman are which means that all our weight goes round our stomachs which can make you a bit of a weird shape if you put on a bit of weight. Yes they say fat around the middle is more toxic than other fat but I think you have been reading too many scare stories. Time enough to worry about that if you become overweight or with age. You should be enjoying your life when young instead of becoming obsessed about your belly and the risk of health problems.
To put it more into perspective - I am 60, around 2 stone overweight with a big stomach. I also smoke and have minor lung problems. I had a check up at the doctors and they put me at 9% risk of having a heart attack or stroke in the next 10 years. That's mainly because I smoke. Stopping would cut that figure in half. So taking those figures of 9% with all things being equal I would have a heart attack etc. in 50 years which would make me 110. Ho hum. So stop worrying yourself into an early grave please! x
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JayBags Weecara
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Secondly. We got absolutely robbed on Thursday, I agree with you (fellow Scot here)
Thirdly:
The fact you can open up and be able to talk about this is already a massive leap forward. Never forget that. I'm just getting round to it myself as the NHS sucks complete wang when it comes to diagnosing/caring about people with Mental Health issues.
Anyway. You'll no doubt see me pour my heart out in a thread somewhere. Just enjoy the show that is JayBags.
Peace,
J x
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I am really dissapionted that people chose lies over this and a lot of old dears were scared into thinking they will loose their pensions my boyfriend and his family all voted no but they are half English so it's no surprise as they have loads of family down in England but we will have another chance we will keep fighting for it and we should be proud to call ourselves the 45% you take care