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I think I have genital herpes... waiting for my test results

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R09876
R09876

I recently had sexual contact with a partner who was very rough causing me quite a bit of discomfort and swelling. As they days passed, I noticed the discomfort was not going away and that I also felt very itchy in my vaginal area. I thought that maybe it was because he was very rough with me and that it had been awhile since any previous sexual encounters. However, I decided to grab a mirror and take a look anyway only to find a small ulcer in my vagknal region. I knew what it was but was in extreme denial. I decided to go to urgent care and the doctor said she thought it looked like herpes as well and did a culture and blood test to be sure. I went home and I haven’t been able to stop crying since. I can’t handle waiting for confirmation when I pretty much know. I feel like my life is over. I feel so empty and alone even though I know I’m not. I’m so worried that my outbreak will worsen the next few days and I’m worried about my future, having to tell sexual partners about my disease. I found this forum and saw the incredible amount of people who are in this like me and wanted to reach out for any sort of support, personal experiences, knowledge, anything that can help me through this. Thank you! 

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  • Scaredaf
    Scaredaf R09876

    Posted

    I'm going through the exact same thing as you at the moment! 

    Decided to get a sexual health check just to be sure and all came back good but then I started looking and found what I would usually think was an ingrown hair. 

    I just came from the doctors and he said it didn't look like herpes but he took a sample anyway for peace of mind. Im suffering from so much anxiety and stress over this that I don't even know what I feel in the way of symptoms anymore. 

    Does your sore look like a typical ulcer? 

    • R09876
      R09876 Scaredaf

      Posted

      I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this! I’m not sure if you know this but most STI screenings don’t screen for herpes so your sexual health check may have not looked for that originally. But that is really good to hear that  your doctor seems fairly confident it isn’t herpes and cultured it anyways just to check! I hope it all works out for you!

      And unfortunately my doctor did say it looked typical but cultured it to be sure since that is the most accurate test. To me, it didn’t seem like any pictures you see online but from doing a lot of reading, many people say those aren’t very accurate to what actual outbreaks are like. So I’m just going to assume it is for now to help myself start to cope as I wait for my test results. I don’t really know how to go about living with this for the rest of my life but I guess I have to sad

  • krissy528
    krissy528 R09876

    Posted

    I can completely understand 100% how you are feeling. I’ve been experiencing some discomfort down in my vaginal area the most being the painful urination. I went to my gyn yesterday to see what was going on. At first, she said she didn’t see anything just that  it was red, swollen and irritated. She took a few cultures to rule out STD’s. After further looking she said she does think she saw a sore. All of my symptoms are pointing to be diagnosed with this. She sent the cultures out and had  me to go get blood work as well to be sure. It’s the weekend now so I get to live with this “oh my gosh how did this happen to me” for the days coming as I await my results.  I cry and research and cry some more just trying to wrap my head around this whole ordeal.  I wish I could offer solutions and tell you living with this is not horrible but I’m thinking the worst. I prep for the worst case scenario and hope for the best.  You are not alone in dealing with us and I thank you for sharing you story since we are both on the same page it seems. 

    • R09876
      R09876 krissy528

      Posted

      I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this as well. It’s nice to feel not so alone but I also would never wish this on anyone. I’m 100% in the same boat as you. I always think of the worst case scenario as well and right now I don’t think there is even a positive scenario to think of. I have really bad anxiety and depression so throwing this into the mix has been a huge struggle for me. I just can’t get it out of my head. I’m so worried about future outbreaks, talking to my family about it, talking to future sexual partners. I really appreciate your response and having someone who feels as I do in this moment. 
  • Scaredaf
    Scaredaf R09876

    Posted

    That's exactly how I'm looking at it as well just to prepare myself - I'm just assuming I have it and if by chance it comes back negative it's just a bonus. To be honest with all the research I've done a negative result will still not even really put my mind at rest as I know how hard it is to actually diagnose now. I can't believe they don't have a better system and don't test everyone for this when they get their bloods done as it's such a common wide-spread std. This is exact reason is why so many people are getting it because people just don't realise they've got it. 

    • R09876
      R09876 Scaredaf

      Posted

      I completely agree! With such high prevalence rates, it’s absurd that they don’t test. Now so many people are infected and unknowingly giving it to other people. It feels so unfair. Especially to be of the group who has it and knows they have it. I’d rather have it and not know as terrible as that sounds because it would make life so much easier. Now it’s our job to disclose that information with other people. I feel like no guy will ever want anything to do with me again. I’m in my early twenties and single so I feel like there’s no hope now. I know it’s dramatic to feel this way but with this all being so fresh I can’t get my mind away from this. I haven’t even stopped crying for the last two days ugh 
    • becca72159
      becca72159 Scaredaf

      Posted

      I asked my Dr that question. He told me people do know they have it they just aren't responsible. I confronted the man that gave me mine. He told me he thinks he's had it for 10 yrs. And he admitted that he had a small rash the night of our encounter. He didn't do anything to protect me. ON the brighter side it's been 4 yrs and it's so common. I don't cry anymore. 1 in five people have it aged 20-49. Whether they know or not. It's chronic but not life threatening. 20-30 yr old group growing fastest. It's common that is what keeps me sane. We are not alone.

  • krissy528
    krissy528 R09876

    Posted

    Anyone find the results and answers from their doctors?  Just trying to keep calm while waiting for my results 

    • R09876
      R09876 krissy528

      Posted

      Nope. I called and the woman couldn't figure out her password to the lab database so I'm stuck waiting for who knows how much longer... so annoying! I have come slightly more at terms with all of this though since there is nothing I can do. I have to learn to just accept it but I know once the results come, I will have an emotional setback. Trying to stay positive about all this! Hope you are doing okay as well 

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