I think I might have passed on Herpes to a guy without telling him about this condition.
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The only one night stand I ever had in my life last year, and unfortunately I got infected with herpes
Something I didn't even know was there before I got it. And the only word that scared me was that it was incurable. When I confronted to the guy he outrightly denied it saying that I am lying. I got under medication when every time the outbreak occurred (which was almost every month before my periods). Over the time, I finally learnt to get a hang of this and accept that it is going to be with me forever. And I decided that I won't let any guy get effected by this.
But a couple of months back I happened to meet this amazingly charming man. Just someone whom I couldn't stop thinking about. What initially started as a fling turned out to be serious for me. We used to make out but I used to keep it within the limits where it's safe for him. I think I was waiting for the right time before I confessed about this thing. But last week, I lost my control and we had unprotected sex. But the moment it started, I withdrew. So we never really finished the act. But there was a skin contact for some seconds. I wasn't having any outbreaks that time. Next morning I confessed that I have this. He was scared the entire time and blamed me for not telling him before.
I decided to not leave him alone at this time. But now he has stopped responding to my messages. I am apologising almost everyday to him but he isn't replying or even telling whether he is infected or not. I don't know what to do now. The guilt is killing me and I can't stop crying whenever I think about it. And I don't even know what is he going through? He won't ever believe that I had no intentions of infecting him but I truly never wanted him to go through any of this. What should I do?
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jessica93013 tanvi26
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Well first off I can see him being upset I mean stop and think about it.. we didn't ask for this..I wasn't given a choice. Slept with someone and now have this for the rest of my life.. honestly if u were even thinking about having sex with him u should have disclosed to him immediately and it could have been his choice. But herpes isn't the end of ur life. It's not going to kill u. Yes the symptoms suck but you'll get thru it.. it just means he either needs some time to figure it out of it wasn't a relationship he was to worried about
tanvi26 jessica93013
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jessica93013 tanvi26
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Do u know for sure u have herpes? Swab done or blood test anything like that? I didn't know I've had it for 17 years had my first outbreak this year to the surprise of my husband and i.. he's never had any symptoms and I never had any until a stressful point and bam I broke out went to the dr and they swabbed what I thought was boils that I've always gotten and came back hsv2. Like I said before herpes isn't the end of your life. Yes it sucks. But if this guy loved u or cared about u he definitely would have contacted u and let u know something.. hopefully he's ok but I promise u will find someone that won't care.. ALWAYS use protection until u are with that one person who is for u always. Now condoms aren't 100% on not transmitting it. Only about 30% chance of non-transfer if u need anything don't be afraid to message me
tanvi26 jessica93013
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I am sure I have this .. because I had my outbreaks within a week of me getting infected. And it was quite visible.. too painful as well.. never really needed any blood test to confirm.. I am under homeopathy now (alternative medicines in India). I can't be sure if they can cure me entirely but honestly when I was under allopathic medicines, my outbreaks used to occur every month. Then I undertook homeopathy around 7 months back. And no outbreaks till now. So I am hoping things get better ahead.
As for this guy, well let's hope I learn my lesson without this guy paying the price. I don't care if he was a good person or a bad one, whether he cared for me or not, but no one deserves this. And I am gonna be sure to clear things out beforehand if things seem to go in this direction. Thank you so much for your guidance. It's good to knw u have a partner who is supportive!