I've been depressed for 3 weeks,how do i become better
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Hi,i ve had seperation anxiety ever since i was a little girl. recently my bf broke up with me and my anxiety and depression has been hell. Ive been taking cymbalta and ativan,but i feel like nothing is helping.Any one have any ideas?
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amberstar33 loona
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I think it just takes time and patience and being kind to yourself.
Do you have friends and family to support you?
loona amberstar33
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amberstar33 loona
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I'm having a really bad day today. Worse part is I don't have anywhere that I feel safe :-( just heading back into my office to try and get through the last hour of work.
I wish I could switch my head off. I keep getting thoughts of driving round to see the guy I was seeing. I logically know that it would be embarassing for a start, there is nothing I have to say to him and I certainly wouldn't get any answers to things I wanted when I was seeing him. Yet I feel like if I am on my own I will lose control and go see him :-/ I feel like a complete loser and like I should be over this. I bet anyone reading this is like just forget it - I am trying, I really am. Not even exercise is helping to shift my mind, I've been doing meditation. I hate every minute of every day at the moment :-(
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gloria15237 loona
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it takes sometimes 6 weeks for the full effects of cymbalta to take force; of course no drug is going to make you totally forget, but it should keep you from obsessing about him; try to keep yourself busy and do things to get your self esteem up there; i am 54 yrs old and several times i thought it was the end of the world, seriously, when a break up would happen; it wasn't; i can even look back now and wonder why in the world was i with him...( i tended to be attracted to emotionally and physically abusive opposite sex)
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sarah86347 loona
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sarah86347 loona
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Well avoidance won't work because that just makes it stronger.
What id do is set a 'worry time' for each day say 4pm. When you get feelings/thoughts of depression or sadness tell yourself you arn't forgetting about it but you will deal with it at 4pm. At 4pm have a ten minute worry.
You can't stop thinking thoughts about it, but you can deal with the thoughts in a different way which will have less of a negative impact on your life.
What do you think x
amberstar33 sarah86347
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sarah86347 amberstar33
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I didnt want to be with my partner but it still deeply upset me once we split up. Why question your feelings? Would it be ok to just let them be without an explanation? Try it and see.
What are your reasons for not starting worry time yet?
Do you feel as though worrying may 'help' you in some way?
You are never alone x
amberstar33 sarah86347
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I am nervous about the worry Time incase I can't stop! I have been trying not to react when I have thoughts - like something reminding me of the guy and just let them pass.
I think I am used to worrying and I use it as a way of protecting myself and not moving forward.
sarah86347 amberstar33
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I would question whether worry is protecting you. If it is protecting why has it not made you feel better yet? Just as a person tries to dig themselves out of hole, they make that hole bigger.
If you are used to it, you are right that it will be a hard habit to break, but as with going to the gym you will know that habits can be created and broken.
If you can postpone worry until worry time, does that show you that worries are controllable and therefore you can then postpone again till the next day?
If you postpone worries until then, how do you know that once worry time arrive you will even need to use it?
Great stuff on allowing them to pass!
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