I've been depressed for about a week, what should I do?

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Hi,

I am a 36 year old lady now Day 18 post unicompartmental knee replacement with ACL repair. I was in hospital only 1 day but the pain that I experienced was nothing I've ever felt in my life! The first week was excruciating but it started getting better from there. I've been completely off pain meds for about a week now (since about day 10) but since I can't bear weight on my knee at all for 8 weeks, I've been stuck in my house unable to drive anywhere. I find that I'm more teary now, feeling down most times and am not sure what to do about it. The pain is manageable and I have a lot of support from my family but I just feel so down all the time. What advice can you give?

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    Hello and I am sorry that you are feeling down. Surgery takes so much from us. We need to try and see the big picture though. Will your life eventually be pain free and will you enjoy a better quality of life? If this is what you can look forward to, then maybe short term suffering is worth the time spent feeling down. I felt miserable for days then I made up my mind to get and remain positive. There are plenty worse off than me. I guess all I can say is try to look forward to a complete recovery. Eat well, try to meditate. Socialise, even by phone or social media.. don't isolate yourself. Sending hugs from Sydney.

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    It is very normal to feel down after major surgery. Just cry when you feel like crying. Be kind to yourself and watch comedy, and make sure you do some things you enjoy. See visitors at least every other day if possible. You will feel better in time.
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    Drlerry, there are so many things that affect out spirits, and 'cabin fever' is one of them.  Do you have anyone who can take you out for a coffee and cake, or something like that?  Just get out somewhere, for a change of scenery.  The whole surgery thing can make you feel worn out, and I don't know if you're sleeping well?  Certainly lack of sleep will make you feel down.   Also, what I did, was find something I wanted to do, to look forward to, every day,  That was often a film and cake, or something else nice to eat.  Normally having a very healthy lifestyle including eating, this was a time I was going to treat myself on the premise of 'I deserve it' LOL!  I lost the weight again pretty easily after that initial period as I got to do more again.  If the weather is nice, can you get comfortable in the garden, to sit in the sunshine for a while?  Can your family take you shopping?  Many supermarkets have a wheelchair to borrow and I LOVED my first shop!  It was just SO lovely to get out, see people who knew me, who asked how I was, and so on.  It's all little things but each of them are a step back to normality.

    Don't beat yourself up for feeling like this - it is normal and many people do, but find the things that you enjoy, and sit and plan things you can't do now but will want to do when you've recovered.  You've got a light at the end of the tunnel now, so focus on that:-)))  I hope this might help and do with you all the best!

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      This has lifted my spirit more! Things to look forward to! I live with my fiancé but I feel terrible asking him to do things for me. He's always so supportive and never complains about anything. He is emotionally supportive...just the best...which is why I felt even worse that I'm still feeling so blue!

      Getting in and out of the car is still very painful and tedious but I will ask to go shopping...just a short trip for household supplies! I'm so looking forward to this now!

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      Oh bless him - he sounds sweet.  Let him look after you:-))))  And ENJOY your trips out!  I know it's difficult getting in and out of the car initially but as you get a better bend it will be much easier:-))))  Who thought shopping coud be such fun LOL!  Only the deprived LOL!

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    I am so sorry to hear about your recovery. Day 18 is very early in your recovery, PT is excruciating and the pain is brutal. Take your pain meds. I couldn't drive until nine weeks, lived in sweatpants and went out on short outings with my husband driving. Getting into and out of car was awful and by the time I got home I was exhausted. Once I could drive, I was feeling better, but still taking pain meds for PT and sleeping. I am almost five months post op. I can walk my dog for two miles and move easily painfree. However, I do find if I overdo I get some swelling and throbbing. Lately, my ankle has been painful. I have been told it is a year process. Sooo, lay back, ice your knee, read a trashy novel and watch old movies (if you're in the U.S. watch TCM).

    Also, check out the links from Chico Marx. He has most of the answers.

    Ellen

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      WOW - you're walking two miles!  That sounds very impressive!  I'm not walking anything near that (but then the other knee needs doing!) but it sounds wonderful.  I hope your ankle gets better soon.  There have been a few with ankle issues after a TKR - not sure if it's a gait thing or what?  Anyone know?

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    Joining this group has been the best decision! I can't believe how much better I feel already! Thank you for the advice and support! I guess deep down I knew to come find people who have gone through the same thing!

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    Dear Drlerry

    I know exactly what you're going through.

    - I'm now 14 months post TKR and the fact that I haven't fully recovered makes the whole experience surreal.Are u sure you can't drive?

    I've got an automatic so it's been a help with driving

    Normally I always thought you went into hospital to get better not worse x

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