I've been depressed for nearly 1year, what should I do?
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Hi i am 23 year old..i completed my engineering degree last year but havent got a job..though i dont want to do a job right now instead i want to go for higher studies..i had a relationship of 4 n half years that was ended 9 months ago..she was the most importent person in my life..i really dont know how to express my feelings for her but I REALLY LOVED HER.we were in a same college..after college she got her dream job and within 6 months someway somehow we fall apart.she wanted me to have a job/to get a admission to some top colleges instantly..but at that time it was very difficult for me to produce instant results..i tried to make her understand but she havent listed to me or my family members..she put all the blame on me for not getting anything & move away like it was nothing but just a GIVE or TAKE relationship & this pain haunts me a lot..& it happened just before the exam which i need to qualify for higher studies..i cried,Screamed a lot at that time..but somehow i qualified that exam moderately(i tried to tell her about that but she shown no interest)..i did'nt get a good depertment/a good college and now again both the career and the past is hurting me..i tried a lot to find out what have i done wrong but it seems the harder i am trying the more i am getting depressed..so i losing motivation for my studies,daily life.i feel i dont have friends..i thought of suicide everyday but i somehow i cant do that..its like i feel i am stuck between life and death..my body is alive but my mind,happiness,thoughtfullness all died with the broken relationship..i tried to forgive her but i couldnt forgot her and my health is getting worse..headache,tirdness,overweight...but my parents are very helpful.they helped a lot then..but somehow i always feel alone..i believe i dont knowe anymore what are my dream,why am i doing this or that..its all kind of void for me..can you please help me...
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keepgoing arabinda_57481
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In the meantime it is important that you put yourself first. Don't worry about other people but concentrate on what you want. Sometimes the only way to find out what that is, is to try something new. It took me years to find out what I really wanted to do in life. If you think it might be going on to study, then have a look at some universities, or if you're not sure you can defer for a year and try something else while you figure out what you want. If you get the chance to try volunteering this can be very helpful and there are lots of opportunities if you have a look online. This can sometimes also lead to a job or help with working out what sort of job you want. I had to re-take my GCSE's and then retake a year at Uni. After that I went into a few jobs that were OK, but not exactly what I wanted, until I took the chance to volunteer at local museums and festivals then I realised that I wanted to be involved in events. I've had a few failed relationships, some that I ended and some that they ended. It's never great but it helps you to learn about what sort of person you are compatible with and what you want from your next relationship.
Basically, don't beat yourself up about stuff that hasn't worked out. There are so many opportunities out there.
I would also suggest that you go to see your GP and explain how you've been feeling. They will most probably want to give you some medication, which isn't ideal but it may help you in the short term until you feel strong enough think about what you want and go for it.
arabinda_57481 keepgoing
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My parents also use to say she is not the perfect match for me but on those 4 years she made me believe that she will be with me in difficult times(those words,promises & everything..i believed them from my heart) but when it really came and i wanted help desperetely she was gone..i could'nt match the words of her from past & present & its not because she was gone hurts me(definetly it feels bad) but the reasons she showed me,the way she embarresed me in front of her & my parents hurts a lot..i also could'nt discuss this relationship failure with everybody because i always assume people will tell me its my failure because we are supposed to get a job after study..this is the 1st time i am publicaly discussing them.
About my career i also want to give the entrance exam in the comming year and score good but sometimes i feel so hopeless,depressed,low self esteem that i stop working..though something in me tells i can do it..but it creats a moral delima that i could'nt able to come out from..
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chin up
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yes maybe i am beating myself too much about that..i always try to get out of that but i failed every time..may be i was not trying hard..but will definitely try to change things..
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Yeah i also believe doing those positive things which my mind reject in bad times is a step forward and i am also able to do that in recent times..like after the breakup i dont want to talk to outsiders or go out or attend a social function..but i am backing myself to do those things and make my mind occupied as much as possible..and honestly it paying me back in positive way..
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