I've been depressed since my wife died. I want to join her.

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Although I'm on tablets they're not working.

I just want to die.

I have worked out how and when.

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    See a therapist, meds are only to help while therapy works usually, meds alone cant and never will resolve issues.  Up to you of course, but a therapist is the best thing for you
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      Meds can work for some conditions, but anxiety and depression generally have a huge psychological factor. There are no meds which address psychological factors. At best for the majority of people meds are intended to be a short term relief while the underlying issues are addressed. People tend to find that out if they try to stop the meds or they stop working, then suddenly things turn bad again
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    Jasper,

    Sorry to hear about your wife. Maybe you should talk to someone. The meds alone aren't a cure all.

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    Hi jasper,

    So sorry ffor your loss, I really mean it.

    My beautiful wife and I have been married 46 years, just lately , with medical problems, I have been worrying how she will cope if I die.

    I want her to cope, I love her much more than I could ever say. I would want her to live her life for both

    of us, I wouldn't want her to cut her life short, do the things we loved doing together until it is her time to go. Would your beloved wife really want you to join her so soon.

    Please think carefully about this, don't do anything that you might feel would let you down in her eyes.

    Best wishes,

    Mike.

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      Mike, that's a very good point. She wouldn't want me to do anything stupid.

      I'm so sorry for what you're going through. My thoughts are with you.

      You've made me feel very selfish, which is a good thing.

      Jasper

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    Hi Jasper, 

    I am sorry for your loss and also feel for you in your sadness.

    My best friend died this year and I felt shocked and devastated. Her death was unexpected and I became depressed, felt hopeless and did not want to be here. I didn't think i could properly function again and here I am a few months later and feeling much more positive.

    I visited my GP not long after my friend passed away and was prescribed beta blockers to calm me down as I cannot take anti depressants as they make me hyper.

    I realised my great friend would not have wanted me to be sad and if it had been the other way around I know i would not have wanted her to be so unhappy.

    Reluctantly I started walking and the first few walks I cried and cried continuosly but I kept up my daily 2 to 3 hour walks and steadily started to enjoy my walks and drank up all to be seen and heard.

    I walk to a park which has beautiful grounds which I never tire of, I interact with other walkers too and see beautiful wild life.

    It is not that I am trying to forget my friend, on the contrary. I talk about my friend now without breaking down and I am able to cope better and take part in life.

    Don't get me wrong I still get upset sometimes when I think of her, but I would not be human without my feelings.

    I wish I had a magic wand for you.

    I am not a medical expert Jasper but a couple of suggestions : Visit your GP and tell him how you feel and that your having problems coping with your loss, 

    Hey and what about going out for a nice walk every day, like me you might get to like it.

    Take good care,

    Hazel 

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    Hi jasper,

    Glad to hear that you are going to seek help. Nothing can ever replace a loss of a loved one but sometimes we need help to get through it.

    I hope you find life gets better for you now that you have found a way to cope better. We are always here, keep in touch.

    Mike.

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    Hi Jasper,

    I joined this discussion forum for the sole purpose of helping you- that is a reason to live. You have a friend in me.

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