I've just found out my boyfriend has the herpes virus
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So this is the first time I've asked anything online let alone anything this personal, so this weekend me and my bf was cleaning out a few of his draws in his bedroom we came across all sorts of old tablets ( medication) we began sorting through and I came across a tablet called acyclovir I asked what it was and he had no idea he searched it on Google on his phone and quickly put it away I became a bit suspicious so put the name in online myself turns out they are to treat hepes I asked him why he had then he said I don't know after asking him to tell me the truth 4 or 5 times he eventually said he caught them over 8 years ago when he was younger but he said they are gone now so there is nothing to worry about when I read up on it properly I told him they never go away when I realised that he had probably infected me I burst out crying and just couldn't stop he says he made a genuine mistake and he even forgot about having it as he thought that was the end of them my head is reply mashed at the min I have forgiven him as he's not that type of person to lie he was mortified that he could have infected me and thought I was going to end things I didn't ( we've been together just over a year and a half) this has been a huge shock but I don't think I can bring myself to get tested what's the worst that could happen if I don't get tested ?
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lola91434 Curlieworldie
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Curlieworldie lola91434
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FelizCastus Curlieworldie
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Nothing. You haven't been tested thus far, right? The only issue is when you move onto a new relationship. You ought to test then, at least 3 months after your last sexual encounter with your current bf. You may or may not have herpes. It doesn't pass each time, and if he's truly had it for years, he may be somewhat less infectious. He can use condoms and/or take daily suppressive meds to better protect you, if you are negative (which would require testing to establish). If you test without any symptoms to swab, only do the IgG antibody test for herpes, not IgM (highly unreliable).
Curlieworldie FelizCastus
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so06472 Curlieworldie
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I second Felis, get tested, it's the only way. And even then, it's not 100%. That's what so sneaky about that s**t... And, off topic a bit but... please, use proper punctuation! A lot of people probably gave up reading (and giving you advice) because of that. Sucks, don't you thin? Get tested and buy a few commas and stuff for your next block of text
Curlieworldie so06472
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Thanks, what a great help you are! I really wasn't thinking about punctuation at the time I wrote this.
As this is an important issue to you maybe, just maybe next time you'll proof read your text.
"Sucks don't you thin?"
so06472 Curlieworldie
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Aren't you just a sweet and mature person... Next, I'll write in french, which is my first language, and we'll see how far your stupid repartee can get you in a conversation. Scrap what I said, you need to buy maturity more than commas.
Curlieworldie so06472
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Wow! Didn't like that reply? Did it hit a nerve? Ever heard the saying "people in glass house's shouldn't throw stones"
Will not be replying again, achète-toi une vie!
so06472 Curlieworldie
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I said I agreed with Felis and gave you an advice, and you didn't like it so you attack my grammar, thinking it would make the first problem disappear? I didn't shame you in any, just gave you an advice, that's it. You didn't hit a nerve, I'm just fine with myself and the mistakes I often make. That you compare a typo with at least 50 mistakes is just funny. It just showed that you need to take a good look at your behavior and relax. If you want to insult me, go ahead. I'm not the one with the careless boyfriend who lied to me. That being said, I hope you'll still get tested before trying for a baby (later on in life, hopefully, seeing how unable you are to take a simple comment that shouldn't make you feel offended.)