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I want my happy self back

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jo24259
jo24259

Hi all,

I am wondering if this has happened to anyone else? I am currently in peri-menopause, 52 years old and always been a happy, tolerant and accepting person. I have always been one of those people who like everything, everyone and can see the best in others despite their beliefs or differences.

But I have changed!

I am finding myself furious with people. I no longer make excuses for people and no longer find the best in them. I am angry with conspiracy theorists, outraged when someone doesn't apologise for crappy service and just generally finding myself irritated.

I want to be my old self. I am scared that I am going to stay like this. And the one quality I have always criticised is grumpy, judgemental old people. I don't want to be one.

Please someone tell this is temporary???

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  • Troldepus71
    Troldepus71 jo24259

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    Dear Jo

    I really hope it is only temporary!!! I am exactly like you... Used to be sooooooo patient, happy and nice - now my fuse is very, very short, I am mostly sad, angry or irritated even about the smallest things.

    Like you I really don't want to become (stay) a grumpy old lady...

  • caz240
    caz240 jo24259

    Posted

    Hi Jo

    Me too! I used to be eternally patient, kind and confident. Now I flap like a flappy bird at the smallest things. Get irritated/frustrated easily but find it hard to express anger so feel flat as a fart most days and miserable. I feel for you this is a rubbish time of life. I felt more me yesterday so hoping I will again soon. Back at work after time off sick, tiring but trying to get motivated Sending hugs x

  • Keljo48
    Keljo48 jo24259

    Posted

    I completely agree. I feel I could have written your post exactly. I am 52 but I am 3 years post menopause and I miss my old self and my old life. I really hate getting so angry. I do try to count and talk myself down from the anger edged more now. It only works sometimes. Temporary? It hasn't been for me so far. It does scare me that I am going to become that old lady that yells at people. They always scared the bejeezus out of me when I was younger.

    • jo24259
      jo24259 Keljo48

      Posted

      I must say i feel better knowing i am not alone lol

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