I was unofficially diagnosed with herpes a week ago

Im 21 years old and I was unofficially diagnosed with Genital herpes. My test results will be in either tomorrow or Tuesday but I’m 99% positive I have herpes. 

My boyfriend works 7 hours away from where I live and had been gone over a month. He came home to visit for 2 days so we took every chance we could find to have sex. There were a couple of times I didn’t feel like I was lubricated enough but it wasn’t a crazy amount of pain and the job was getting done so I didn’t think anything of it. After he left back to work on Saturday I noticed my perineum was a little tender and raw so I assumed i had a minor tear, nothing I haven’t experienced before. It was still a little raw on Sunday but I went about my day at work like normal and everything was fine. Sunday night I probably got a total of 3 hours of sleep because I kept waking up to an itching in my vagina. I assumed it was just the tear healing so I tried to ignore it but it kept bothering me. I got an ice pack from the fridge, wrapped it in a towel, and applied it to the area. This seemed to help a lot but I still wasn’t comfortable enough to sleep. 

Monday morning I had an 8am class which I skipped because I was exhausted and the thought of putting pants on sounded like torture. Luckily I didn’t work that day so I stayed in bed all day icing my crotch, watching Netflix. Because the itching was so bad, I thought I might have a yeast infection on top of the tear so I got some coconut oil to use as a lubricant (it hurt like crazy when it got dry and my skin would stick together and then pull apart when I would move) and some people had reported that it helped with their yeast infection (Monistat makes me want to crawl out of my skin so i avoid it all together). That seemed to be keeping everything at bay so I was a happy camper. 

Tuesday came around and it burned like hell to pee, I jumped off the toilet and laid on the bathroom floor crying because it hurt so bad. I was trying to get ready for work and couldn’t even sit to do my makeup. I was in tears when I called in and I told my manager what was going on (luckily we’re close friends so I could be honest and she’s super understanding). I realized that if I was in so much pain, I needed to go see my gyno because he might have medicine that would help me heal and help with the pain. I called in telling him I thought I had a tear, blah, blah, blah and he got me in an hour later. The exam was the most painful exam I’ve ever had. He took swabs and spread me open and looked around, he didn’t say much until we went into his office and he told me he had seen a small bump that he thought looked like herpes so he was running a test. He said he didn’t think it was a tear cause there wasn’t ever any bleeding and tears are usually jagged. I also had a yeast infection on top of all of this so he prescribed me a pill for the yeast infection, a prescription of valacyclovir to take twice a day for 7 days Incase it is herpes, and a tube of clotrimazole betamethasone cream. The pills seemed to start helping control the breakout within the first couple days. Soaking in warm baths has been my life this past week, anytime I get home from work or school I run a bath and sit in it for 20-30 minutes just relaxing and there’s literally no pain.  

My sores that appeared were never painful even after they burst, I barely noticed them. My perineum has always been the place that’s given me the most trouble through this whole experience, it was inflamed, red, and raw the first couple of days and I now have a spot there that looks like an ulcer or a canker sore that you would get in your mouth and it is the most painful thing ever. It burns when I pee even if I pee in a shallow bath and if it dries out and pulls apart it feels like I’m being sliced open. The pain throughout the day is pretty much gone other than when I have to use the bathroom or if it’s been hours since I’ve applied the cream. Has anybody else experienced this ulcer like sore? All the pictures I’ve seen have looked completely different and I’m worried that this cream isn’t going to work for it and it’s gunna take forever to heal. Does anybody have any advice on how to heal it quicker and preferably with minimal pain? 

Also, I don’t believe my current boyfriend cheated on me while he’s been away so please don’t suggest that. I dated a guy for 2 years and he broke up with me on my birthday (August 4th) last year. He had never been with anybody else and we both got tested for stds so we never used condoms. A few months later we got back together for a short period of time and falling into old habits we didn’t use condoms. He had been with 5 girls in the 4 months we were broken up and failed to tell me he didn’t use condoms with any of them until after we had sex and I found out he also had another girlfriend so I’m assuming I got it from him. My current boyfriend is being incredibly supportive and understanding and is getting tested soon. 

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