ideas please
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Dont know where to start. Just that I am sinking in miserable feelings and anxious all the time and no idea how to dig myself out. Just feel every bit of bad luck on earth keeps directing itself at me and I'm sick of trying to cope with one crisis after another. I know I'm not handling things right but don't know how to explain it without getting angry and grumpy. I was on citalopram some years ago but had a really nasty allergic reaction to them and I can't face trying them again. Being ill on cit just made me even more unhappy. Friends tell me various self help stuff like more exercise, do this, take that supplement or whatever but how to dig out of the black hole to even commit to anything that might help. Any ideas that don't involve being Mrs Perfect overnight would be so welcome. I just sit and cry and lie awake at night worrying about everything. Thank you.
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linda83143l loxie
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Imagine sticks with plates on,
Health
Finances
Emotions
Stress
Anxiety
Bills
Food
Each one O a plate you are trying to spin, try and deal with only one thing at a time. Try deep breathing, its not going to happen overnight.
There will be more plates than that.
If angry mentally smash them if it helps and just deal with one letter, one bill, one thing at a time
Its helped me. I smashed them!!!
Take each day at a time or at worst an hour at a time. Don't pressure yourself into sleep iy has the reverse effect.
Hope this makes sense, with love, Linda x
loxie linda83143l
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syl15252 loxie
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Well, the most obvious is drugs+therapy. Therapy will be good for trying to find out why you get angry. And for drugs- it is up to you and your doctor to decide whether you need anything.
Personally, I would go for anti-anxiety pills to treat paranoia and help me regulate sleep. Good sleep is crucial for regulation of mood and sleep deprived people are known to be cranky- do you think this might be it in your case?
Well, this approach helped me. I think I started getting my rage attacks because of being fed up with uneffective treatments of my depression- who knows? Still bit anxious and down, but less paranoid and and don't snap at people anymore.
Oh, one last thing- I just accept my depression. I know it is not popular and we should think about it as an illness (I realize it is one) and not part of me, but this approach brings me much less frustration and worries. And I do recommend calming pills because on many occassions they have way lesser side effects and immediately make a difference.
I hope you will feel better soon,
xx
loxie syl15252
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I really empathise with your comment about getting angry because not getting an effective treatment for depression. I have a nightmare with doctors, I never manage to explain what's wrong in the scant 5 minutes I get at my GP surgery and I come away with another single pill that isn't really suitable. When I first did try to tell them I was having anxiety etc., the prescription for citalopram was in my hand before I'd even sat down to be honest. Cit made me so ill, not just side effects but really really ill. My hair fell out in huge amounts, which just added to my distress. I developed nasty IBS and even a really healthy diet couldnt stop the awful symptoms and then I started to get blinding headaches. My doctor finally agreed to stop them and within a couple of weeks all these things had gone but of course my black moods, worry and stressing had all come back, with a vengeance.
Some years ago I asked about therapy and was told, wait for the pills to work first. So I booked and paid for some counselling sessions privately. To be honest, I hated them. The counsellor was sickly sweet, and the type of person who was so different to me in style and attitude I found it difficult to open up to her, I got to the point where I thought if she smiles and nods condescendingly just one more time I'm going to bash her I also tried CBT and found that frustrating too. I wanted to talk about things in my past which had influenced the way I am and the therapists kept stopping me and reiterating that CBT was about the future not the past but my past has a lot to do with why I cant manage my future and again I just got snappy again. I'm going to try to find the courage to revisit my doctor and attempt to ask properly for some help but without just throwing SSRI's or anti-depressants at me. Here's hoping.
syl15252 loxie
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Sorry for late reply. Yesterday, I had one of my bad days; it passed before it even begun!
Oh, I’ve been there! The problem is that psychology is a very popular field of study and there are no tests for people to see whether they would make good therapists, so you never know who you will come across. I have had 5 therapists across 10 years, with two I finished “treatment” after the first session and cried like crazy out of frustration afterwards (these people were condescending and telling me who I was and what I felt after 10 minutes and believe me- I have enough introspection to know they were TOTALLY wrong). Three others were ok; I’ve learned something from each, but with each at one point I hit dead end so now I will be looking for another therapist. And I will definitely “interview” potential therapists- I know what failed in my previous therapies so now I know what I need (I wish I had done that before, btw). It is good you also know what you want and need; it will help you avoid wasting time and money and of course will be less frustrating.
Another thing with depression, acceptance and treatment is that we live in times when mental illness is still not well explored. Depression has many forms and sometimes it is coupled with other disorder. Sometimes it causes this disorder, sometimes it is caused by it. And nobody can figure out what comes first. Also, when you think about it there are so many pills, each acting on different systems in the brain, again showing that depression can be different. Doctors have no idea so they give the most popular meds and then second best, etc. Maybe it is annoying for them to be helpless and for sure frustrating for us to be test subjects because noone knows why we are depressed and what is working differently (what should be fixed). I'm sorry if I'm getting too dark, but hey- I'm depressed .
So, all in all, yes being depressed is a challenge not only because how we feel and how others see us, but as well because it is so frustrating to search for the right treatment and attempt to have a normal life meanwhile I can so relate to what are you are writing about GPs and the way we mess things up with other people or missed opportunities. What my partner keeps on telling me is to try things I think I cannot manage or I am not qualified to do, as we cannot see the reality clearly. Most probably, we are both pretty good at many things; we just keep on putting ourselves down. This approach would be perfect if we had no fear of rejection (at least I have one). But, please, don't feel bad about missed opportunities; there will be others and there is no point feeling bad about them (I know, I know- easier said than done :P).
Please, do let me know how the visit went and if your GP is not up to the task, look for a new one. And man, I feel so bad you had to put up with all these horrible side effects! Never again! Just fight for yourself. GPs might have good intentions but they will never truly understand what we go through. I will keep my fingers crossed for you! xx
loxie syl15252
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You're so right about the challenges of finding the right treatment, I would love that there is a 'happy pill' I could take to make it all better but I know now there isn't , that taking nasty pharmaceuticals just doesn't help me, I need help to find a way to help myself out of this black hole, not a pill to drug me so I don't know what I'm thinking, if that makes sense.
Thank you again and I hope you too find the right way forward for you also.xx
laura79036 loxie
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linda83143l loxie
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Exam today 😢 xxx
loxie linda83143l
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