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Im new to this and need help, i had a severe panic attack last night at 3 am and didn't come down until 5 am. Im not a deug user ok or alcohol. Its all situational, i just need someone that understands. I have a wife and 3 children and usually hide when im having an attack but last night was so bad my wife and 25 year old son set with me, i was so emberreced to face my son today. Please help

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    Hey there, this is very common and it's nothing to be ashamed about. What you need to do is find what makes you less anxious and what makes you feel good, and stick to doing that. Remember, panic attacks cant kill you, so dont waste your life fearing them. If you need any help, post on here and feel free to send me a PM.

    Good luck and all the best!

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    first thing first is to go to the doctor and get an exam. Do not be upset with yourself or ashamed theres little you can do to stop the adrenaline rush but a lot you can do now to figure out what needs to be done to calm them. Its not a weakness in you, these attacks are brutal and would bring any man down to there knees. If you can locate a behavior therapist that would benhelpful they can talk with you and get an idea whats going on and teach you proper breathing and cbt. Only see a qualified doctor who is well versed in cbt and anxiety disordes otherwise you are wasting your time and energy. Proper breathing is using your stimach not your chest. It way harder to hyperventilate this way. You slowly inhale and your stomach expands hold a couple of seconds then slowly exhale flattens your stomach. You do this for about two solid minutes and slowly. During that two solid minutes absolutely no thiughts allowed at all. You tell yourself for the next two minutes you are breathing and no thoughts do not let any thought intrude. That is mindfullness breathing. You are solely and only focused in that moment with zero thoughts. Whats happening to you is your hyperventilating and that just makes a huge mess out of the panic attack. After you do your two minutes of breathing walk over to the sink and fill the basin with the warmest water you can tolerate and place both hamds in face down. Keep your hands in there face down and again now two solid minutes of the breathing. When your dine look in the mirror, im not kidding its really imprtant and say i love you and we will get through this. That is an affirmation that you will say everytime you are in the bathroom for any reason because affirmations eventually become real and eventually will occur. Do not be embarrased or upset with yourself it is what it is and its okay. 18% of the population is going thru this you are not alone at all. Anxiety will effect 70% of your body during a oanic attack so symptoms will fire in every direction and all kinds of negative thoughts will arise, let it flow. They all have to be accepted at that moment and not fueled bt you getting fearful or thinking the worst scenarios.that will just elongate the whole process until it exhausts you and its uncomfortable at best. Always do the breathing exercisses, practice them a lot. Two minutes is a very short time and rememeber no thoughts allowed. I would strongly suggest  to get on a clean diet as well, chemicals and processed foods harm your body and if there is a sensitivity to any of them the body isnt kind. Check whatever medications you take with your oharmacist to rule out they arent adding to your anxiety. Some antibiotics can trigger this, some illnesses can fuel it ..etc. you noted its situational so a therapist would need to handle that with you one on one.you have one life, you have one body pit yourself first and love yourself and respect your body. Problems will come and go your whole life, they always have and always will. Worrying and overthinking any of them will never ever solve a thing. The best answers come when you are calm and rested. Thats a fact.you will get through this! You will! There are just many things that are out of your control and thats is rough for a person who tends to be anxious because they tend to want to control everything and are into control they even want to control future outcomes...its not possible. You have to start living in the moment. You must live and think in the moment its all you really have anyway. Good luck and please believe in yourself. You are strong and handling everything as best you can, and that is all you can do.
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      Thank all of you, I've had anxiety for years were i have shortness of breath and sometimes it feels like my rib cage is being ripped apart and pain in my arm pit. The first time i thought it was a heart attack, and went to a dr. He put me on klonopin. 05 mg. I work in the film industry and got hurt on the No Good Deed, i broke my ankle an tore the ligament from the bone. I indeed up with a really bad dr that left stuff in my foot and i got osteomyelitis. This was 5/7/2012 so im in poor health i spent 7 months and couldn't get out of the bed, I've had lawer problems hatd to find a new dr. Took 2 years with no dr and both lawyers fighting to get me the right to get a new dr. This has not been about a law suit , i want to go back to work. My 15 year old wrote a suicide note and we found out through his school and my wife ended up with lupus over all this and last week i lost my uncle that raised me so he was more like my father. And he got hurt when he was 8n his m8s 30s and ended up ina wheelchair. So over the last 4 years he knew what i was going through and became my best friend. I have worked my whole life and on my own at 17 and for the first time i don't know how im going to pay my rent keep my insurance and every time i close my eyes i see my uncle.

      The panic attacks im having now are i can't breathe, i can't stop crying, i feel like im crawling out of my skin, im goingi to pass out and want to break a door in half. I have always been a control freak an i have no control over this and it scares me. Its hard to explain. I told my dr he upped me klonopin to 1mg and told me to take 1 a day an gave me .05 xanix for when i have a major one and workers comp is supposed to set up a physiology exam, im not depressed and i don't want to hurt my self but these are happening more often and its like i can't shut my brain off. Thanks for letting me have someone to talk to.

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      There is a lot going  thats for sure. Each needs to be addressed in and of itself. Klonopin is a benzo as is xanax. one is long term and one is short term. Both being in the same class would be wondering why you are using both, is that needed? I see you are in a crisis, and yes you have a lot of things going on at once and it does sound over whelming. You have to realize you are one person and can only do your best. Therapy here is vital. Your son, you and your wife..individually and as a family.possibly even as in patient because there you can focus on yourself and your own healing and be properly medicated by a medicine that can be long term and they can wean yiu off all these benzos which are not made for long term use.they are hard to wean off of. How in the world can you expect yourself to be able to properly help your son whilst you are in this spiral, so i would say in house patient care for your son too.I am unfamiliar with lupus. Hopefully you have a decent lawyer or can locate one for your ankle injury. This injury and bad surgery experience has effected a lot. STOP  feeling this is all in you, it isnt. It cant be. On a different note it would be superb if you had a family menber or a great friend who can help you out a bit. Maybe even from your wifes side. Once you get the well needed help and feel strong again you will be able to better care for yourself and manage your stress levels. if your lawyer stinks you need to find a better one. Considering what you are going through and the errors made i would think theres one out there and the effects of a good lawyer here would bring the money in to correct the rent and insurance fears. Or even look into disabilty payments of some sort.I know thats obvious but that would be an important step in a resolution aside from you and your son going into an in house patient facility to be properly helped and given the tools you each need to heal and push forward in Life. Panic attacks are debilitating. Period. Here its obvious you are over whelmed and so badly want to be the hero and fix and save everyone but you are just one human being yourself, so dont beat yourself up like this. Not fair at all and serves no purpose. A Good cry here might be needed. But a real resolution is getting help you really need at this time. Look i dont know all the details but lets say it takes a month to organize your own care and have your medicines properly dispensed with a long term medicine and during this you get lots of therapy and learn all the tools you need. Would that really be a bad scenario..its one month right? Not so bad for a fix.you need you! You need care here and you need help, life is not a one man show where everything dumps on you. Your son will clearly benifit from the help as well.  In a perfect world your wife could be with a relative or friend and knowing her son and husband are on the path to recovery could only help her stress and lupus issues. She can always join in in family therapy. Just seems like the best solution objectively. There is never a good time to do this, there will never be the a good time to do this but you really want a better and more stabile life and they are the specialists. Thats the best advice i can think of. May god bless you and protect you and your family. A complete you will be so much happier in the long run.
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    Hello Eric, I'm sorry you're suffering from panic attacks, they are one of the worst things I know of. I've had anxiety and panic all my life and I tried to hide it because I was embarrassed, I'm older and the mindset is that men don't show emotions so I know what you're saying when you said you were embarrassed. I've changed somewhat now, after research I've found that this problem is quite common and many suffer from it (some like us ...silently) My suggestion is you google some sites on panic attack and also some YouTube there is lots of information on it. Show your wife and son so that they know what you're dealing with, understanding is half the battle. A lot of people have no idea how terrifying that these episodes can be and why you just can't turn it off or snap out of it. It's not a sign that you're weak Eric, you may have been strong for too long. Of course see a physician or psychologist, but find those sites, there are some tips that may help you to cope with it. I wish you well.

    Brian

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      Thank you Brian, and you are right. It was just hard facing my son. I was crying and don't even know why, i couldn't beeath felt l8ke i was dying. I have a very hi stressed job so i was good at keeping control but if you read what i wrote above you can see it's been more than anyone should bare. I started having one tonight and just went and sat in the dark a took my medicine for an hour. I just feel like I've had tears in my eyes all evening an just hoping no one notices.

      It's just nice to have someone to share with. Thank you it helps

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      Hello Eric, I read you above post and it's no wonder you're having these symptoms. You've had a rough go of it this past few years, we can only handle this stress for so long and then something has to give. There are books out there that can help you understand the physiology of what you're going through, and ways to cope. Just knowing what's happening to you can bring some peace of mind. If you want to inbox me here, I'll gladly relay what I've found that helps with understanding. That being said I still struggle myself, but I do know that there's a lot of people with this condition I thought I was going crazy at times and that to me was the scariest of the feelings.

      i too worked a stressful job in an inner city Emergency room, between that and the other life stressors, losing a wife to cancer, losing both my parents, you get to the point where coping is difficult and trying to remain strong is almost impossible. Take care.

      Brian

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    Hello. I often have suffered through hours of panic attacks. I know your pain, along with thoughts of what everyone is possibly thinking. The panic attacks come out of nowhere for me. I get senses of dizziness, confusion, fear, heart palpitations, depersonolization etc.. Try to do some kind of activity that takes your mind off of the attack or research different breathing techniques. Mine were happening so frequently that I have started therapy, along with medication. It has made a huge difference!! We don't know what triggers our panic a lot of the time, but there could be underlying stress that you aren't even aware of. Hang in there, and I hope you start to feel better.
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    Hello I am sorry that you are suffering from panic attacks. Your not alone, and your in good company. I am glad that you are reaching out. Like others have mentioned it is a good idea to seek counseling to get a proper diagnosis.  I would also recommend you see your doctor to rule out any physiological illness.  Sometime vitamin deficiencies can cause this, sometimes thyroid problems.  I wish you the best, and hope this helps.  Feel free to chat with us.
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