Information for significant others dealing with fibroids
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My girlfriend has has fibroids for a long time. It causes painful intercourse. Is there information available for significant others in regard to support for my girlfriend?
I love this woman. We have been togetyer now for almost a year. We had alot of sex when we were first together. While I knew sometimes she had pain, and she explained why, I guess I didn't understand the impact it had on her. Recently we have not been having sex, and when I asked about it (of course the guy thing to do is assume the worst is a possibility, like she's just not interested in me anymore) she got a bit upset like she'd explained it to me already. Because we had so much sex in the honeymoon phase of our relationship I guess I just totally missed it. I feel thick headed and dumb now. I guess I thought she was "Ok" with the risk of pain. Again, because she was so sexual initially.
What should I do? Try to talk to her about sexual intimacy options that do not involve intercourse? I am thinking of just telling her I love her and I am ok with not having intercourse if it causes her pain. And that is like to talk about other sexual intimacy options, whenever she is ready to. She has talked about seeking treatment, but needs to become more financially stable first... any type of feedback would be appreciated.
If this is not the correct forum let me know. If you could direct me to another forum, I would appreciate that too.
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sallysav ksturner01
Posted
" I am thinking of just telling her I love her and I am ok with not having intercourse if it causes her pain. "
If you love her then this will be true and you MUST tell her this. Reassure her that you don't want her to do anything that might cause pain.
Once she is able to trust that there is no risk of pain when you are being intimate then she may be ready to explore other sexual options.
Don't pressure her. Offer to give her a gentle massage. Fibroids can cause lower back pain.
ksturner01 sallysav
Posted
Thank you for your input. I have told her that. I think she feels obligated to provide intercourse. I have told her she doesn't owe me anything of course. I do not think she's ever been with anyone that would totally support her in that regard.