Insecurities

Hi there. Im not a medical professional but it definately sounds like you are depressed to me. Xx a lot of the things yr thinking and feeling the anxiety the lack of things u was interested in before all seems like to me xxx u are a teenager and can make an appt without yr parents. U are old enough and the dr will kp confidential. Providing u arent a danger to yrself ir others xx good luck. Dont suffer anymorre. Like i did. Seek help kp us posted xxxx

Hi. I'm sorry you are feeling so low. Do you have an aunt or grandma or another relative you could talk to? Or is their a teacher or a school counsellor you could trust? I think you should also make an appointment with your GP, they may be able to help.

Bluebell, it's terrible that you've found - what did you say - 42 things wrong with yourself????? (might just have to give you 42 question marks for this!)

The friend that called you stupid has more insecurities than you for sure - would YOU ever call anyone stupid?? ...... Exactly.

I can totally associate with how you feel in respect of the art/music thing, and also the secondary school loss of friends....

I went to a school for music and art and immediately lost friends for being different. And then i realised that I wasn't top of art/ music anymore... Competetion!

Loss of original friends... Devastating.

Insults.... Well we all know about those. The ability of social media to debilitate people? It's terrifying the effects that can have...

Have you worked out who's opinion matters to you most yet??

(My parents put huge pressure on me which resulted in grades = Love).

You have more sense of yourself than most at your age - some people are just natural thinkers.

It's a blessing and a curse angel, and it's up to you whether or not you choose to tackle it as depression or a natural insecurity given what you're going through right now.

Amanda's right - you can go to your GP and ask what they think - and if you don't like your GP then get another one!! It's worth finding the right help, honestly.

Once you start feeling better about yourself it'll matter less what others think, trust me!

Lots of love to you xx

 

Hi Bluebell - what a world we have and how difficult it is for teenagers these days. The expectation of perfection, the empty pursuit of being 'the best,' all on top of all that hormonal change that is raging inside you as change from a child to a young woman. Our peers at that age can be incerdibly cruel, and with the depersonalisation created by social media seems to have made those that use it even less sympathetic or responsible for what they do and say. The starting block in your situation is to first ignore the insults directed at you by those around you. They are demeaning you to make themselves feel better. Under that sneering and strutting is an insecure person who picks on someone else in the delusion that it is somehow poerful or clever. It's not. What IS clever is you. You have recognised a growing insecurity and are reaching out to understand and deal with it. That is intelligent. That is responsible. You have recognised that this is something that you need help with, and seeking help is not a weakness. That requires strength.

I wonder if there is a counsellor at school who you can discuss this with. That is one step you can take, and you can take it in conjunction with Amanda's advice - to make an appointment to see a doctor. Reemember these people are there to help you. They will guide you through the process of dealing with any issues and are on your side. No-one else need know about it, and i would be careful who you tell as it could be another thing the malicious will twist into a judgement and insult.

The last thing to mention is this list. We can all find a collection of things "wrong" without even trying. They are the list of expectations others have decided. There is no "wrong" about a person - we are all utterly unique and that makes us - and the world - endlessly interesting. How about a list of what is "right" about you? You can start with 1/ Intelligent...

Make that appointment today. You will feel better for it, and remember you are not alone. We are always here to talk.

 Hello you sound like a young me somewhere there. all the art music dancing etc but I am 70 now.  well you should look upon these offensive remark makers as very ugly people indeed because they are the worst, they have no virtues have they they are just rubbish having the cheek to voice their unrequired opinions, and thi sis how you must regard them. Yes depression not only knocks back motivation but makes you suddenly feel you are no good at anything. If you are like me it comes and goes.The problem is reclaiming what you felt before, I doubt if you misjudged yourself more likely you have low self esteem not helped by these um whats the word individuals around you, they will always drop on someone they think might actually care what they say. Just try and see them as evil and destructive and low life, their opinions therefore are worth nothing. just because you arent 100% at doing everything doesnt make what the others do better. YOu are good at what you are good at, I bet the bullies couldnt do what  you can do. YOu have a special gilfft you are artistic they are just ordinary but twisted.

but physically believe me most teenagers feel those things about themselves it goes when you are in your twenties and you could amaze yourself then, so dont give up life changes you are so very young, and loads of interesting stuff could turn up. Therapy would be the best route for you I think rather than anti depressants because they come with a  load of side effects usually and may not work very well. Its up to you but have courage and dont let inferior people get you down.

 

Hi I can't add to the great advice you have been given.

Please however don't tell anyone you don't want to or trust about your depression.  Some people will be great but others will just use as a way to abuse you even more.   And do you really want to be treated as a special case?