is it social anxiety?

hey Louise thank you for taking time to reply to my post

I feel uncomfortable/stressed and sometimes I get heat sensation on my ears but not much..I mainly avoid to talk to people whom I feel Im going to get stressed and think about what I said and stick to the ones I know Im comfortable with.I talk to my sister on what happens and how I feel but I think it just starting to bore her and she doesn't want to hear me over thinking every little thing

as feeling failure I know what you mean..I see my self failed as a big sister since she doesn't talk to me about her problems because I won't be able to help her nor know what to say, Im not reliable in those things 

thank you so much really, your words means a lot :”)

it's tough. I know what you mean though. you can over think things and it makes it worse, talking can make it bigger... I have found that as I have made people aware I'm struggling.

Go out of your comfort zone and join a class, hobby X easier said than done but I push myself into situations I hate as I think it's not going to beat me!!!!

exactly sometimes you tell people you wish you didn't 

I dont have the courage to do that..Im just scared of expressing opinion as I worry they’re stupid

for you to push yourself into situations you hate thats really brave :”) I envy you I know that doing so would help a lot but Im too damn chickend..for hobby I draw alittle but frustrated on not improving xD

I don't think it is built in us, but taught.  I know because I had an overreactive parent that contributed to my thinking. I could not do anythin right.  Well, that programs our thinking.  Louise you need counseling to help unprogram all that negative thinking.  Seek help with counseling.

Over thinking and analysing is common with anxiety disorders.  I have it.  You would definitely benefit from MINDFULNESS, research it! It teaches us to not be so judgemental of our quirks, and learn compassion towards ourselves!

thank you! I'll definitely research it

I dont know all this is inside me and it doesnt seem affecting my life that badly to be called depression or anxiety? its true that somtime I feel so low to the point I dont want to study for an exam but I manage eventually and still kinad get good marks..I still go out, communicate..maybe its like something that I do that make people react like this to me.. my lack of knowledge that make me feel stupid ,how I over think every little thing and how I cant speak well and handle difficult situation. thats why I asked for books that maybe could help me improve myself..its not to the degree of depression/anexiety

the problem is I dont know! I dont know how to react to things cuz Im afraied my reaction will be too much while it wasnt needed

sorry if my post seems unconnected..and thank you for taking time to read and reply

Research "self-esteem"  It seems that you may be suffering from low self esteem at times?  We all do, and we all can benefit from talking nicely to ourselves.  Try to tell yourself that "I am worthy of feeling good about myself"  When you do simple things for self, washing your dishes, tell yourself "I care about myself, by doing something good for myself, and keeping my things clean"  take this and apply it to all the things you do for yourself.  Maybe if you have a smart phone find downloads of positive self affirmations?

I do , I have low self esteem and im weak and stupid..Im so stupid..if I feel my stupidity everyday that prevents me from doing as you said..even if I did something for me and encouraged myself for it it wont have that huge impact because I still didnt beat the main issue which is feeling stupid and useless..yesterday I asked the librarian to make copies for 2 chapters and told her its for our exam on thursday..one of them was not actually included in the test , I cant even make out if I mistook and realised it later or I knew but still said it so she print the other cuz if I didnt she wont im so confused, but im sure i talked to one or couple people and told them I put the 1st and 3rd chapter which is not included..I thought they would know and distinguish between them ,but alot mistook it and started studying both! I thought they would know..I feel horrible to the point I want to cry! I keep telling myself its not my fault and they should have known from the chapter content, but feels as my fault, am I really at fault ? I dont know if she told them this for the test, but if she did then its really is mine..Im scared of them blaming me , judging me, critsize me

I didnt say anything because Im scared..and sacared by reading this you'll start judging me, I really didnt mean it I thought they'd know..I cant get it out of my mind its frustrating me so much I want to cry..I guess this show how frustrating/stupid person I am

sorry I vent it all here on you..you dont have to reply me I just wanted to let it out.. and thank you for your reply I really appreciate it

Please don't be so hard on yourself.  We all make mistakes, yes everyone makes mistakes.  If making mistakes makes people stupid then everyone would be stupid! Yes I mean everyone would be stupid, because we all make mistakes all the time.  I have made more mistakes than I can count.  But I tell myself, yes I made some.  But I know I will learn from them.  And sometimes I made the same mistake over.  But I guess it just took a couple more times for me to learn.  Making mistakes is a learning process.  No one is perfect, perfection can never be reached!  You seem like a sensative person, which I believe is a character to have.  I am sensative myself.  This means us sensative people are more aware of other peoples feelings, and we will not be mean to others.  Do you have a bestfriend? Are you able to talk with them about your feelings?

thank you really for reading and replying me..I know that no one is perfect :”( I'm just scared of being judge based on my mistakes..I don't feel stupid only when I do mistakes..I feel generally stupid..my opinions are stupid..way of thinking is stupid , I don't know what to say the arrangement of speech is odd. I'm stupid because I let chances go away in many different things then I go on regretting it. I don't say a straight no I give stupid unrelated excuses..I heard the word stupid mainly from my family, they do tell me sometimes when I offer an opinion that its stupid, unrelated..I know that these should not mean anything but I just seem to take it to the heart.

I do have best friends but I don't talk to them about this, I don't know why, I feel they won't understand and I won't feel comfortable if they know, they’re very outgoing and bold where I can't even ask the person behind me to remove their foot off my chair cuz they are bothering me while in class. I hate this its always about “what will they think of me” even if I was sitting on a stool in lab then we get up to see slides then everyone comes front for the attendance & somebody sets on my stool “its just a stool she could set on any other” “we’re finishing now” thats was I was afraid of getting ? I must’ve looked stupid standing. I'm frustrated and I'm a frustrating person.

I dont want to be aware of others feelings, I pay so much attention for others feeling that I don't even care for mine. I don't know whats to be me nor is there even “me” ? everything I try to do/say has to be impressive, and more of what “they” would like 

 thank you again really,,what you’ve said actually made me feel little better, and sorry if my post seems unconnected

I know the feeling and the thoughts.  you have been programmed with that thinking by those most important to you, your parents.  You need to undue that way of thinking and reprogram yourself to be more compassionate to yourself.  This is where I think counseling can benefit you.  If you are not comfortable with that route.  Read self help books on building self esteem.  I don't know you personally, but I know deep down in side of you is a SURVIVOR!  Get a hold of that in you and stand up for self.  I am not advocating be selfish.  But get a hold of you inner strength and confidence and build on it.  There is a say "I think, therefore I am"  It is true in some aspects. But there is also neuroplasticity of the brain.  We can learn to unthink habits of thinking, and change the way we think about ourselfs and the world around us!  Focus on building yourself up, choosing people that genuinually care about you and your feelings.  Talk with them and get affirmation of who you really are.  Work on yourself.  Look up positive affirmations on self esteem and believe them, give them meaning.  I hope this helps. Remember you are the only one who stick up for yourself.  Your a lion!

thank you, thank you so much your words made me feel better : " ) I really appreciate it. Im gonna do like you said and start working on myself so thanks for all the advises and support. I wish you all the happiness in your life : " ). thanks again Michael.

Your welcome! I wish you happiness too!